HOTEL MITRA

This is old hotel, but has renovated. There are new rooms (superior, grand deluxe and junior suite) and they still have old room (deluxe room). We tried to book superior rooms, but unfortunately for superior and grand deluxe rooms are full booked. Finally we booked deluxe room. Not a regret choice anyway, I love deluxe room. Even it’s an old style room but it’s large and has bathroom with bathtub. My son really loves soaking in bathtub. When he walked into bathroom and saw bathtub, he shouted “WOW!”. The size of bathroom is also quite spacious with marmer on floor and wall, like stars hotel bathroom. Floor at bedroom also from marmer. The hot and cold water also run very good. This hotel also has swimming pool, not big one but not small too. It’s located behind restaurant on the ground floor. Near the swimming pool, there’s shower with hot and cold water. So, after swimming my son can take bath there. Their foods are also quite delicious and not expensive. I tried Iga Kambing Bakar, and I like it. My son loved fried fries with cheese. We also ate Mitra Nasi Goreng, and we didn’t regret it. All were delicious.












Hotel Mitra
Alamat : Jl.Wr.Supratman No.98 Bandung
Telp : 022-7207245


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Baca Baca Baca

Gw sebenernya bukan tipe emak2 yang pengen anaknya harus bisa ini itu di umur sedini mungkin. Meskipun, kalo misalnya anaknya bisa ini itu di usia balita, juga merupakan kebanggaan juga sih . Sama seperti masalah Calistung (Baca, Tulis dan Hitung). Gw sebenernya bukan tipe emak2 yang mau nge-les-in anak untuk Calistung, tapi akhirnya gw les-in juga itu anak gw *hehehe…*.Jadi gini ceritanya, kakak gw udah di-warning sama guru anaknya, kalo anaknya mo masuk SD dia harus bisa baca (Anaknya sekarang umur 5,5 tahun). Akhirnya dia berniat untuk nge-les-in anaknya belajar baca. Berhubung anaknya itu males belajar baca, jadi untuk sebagai penyemangat dia belajar, diajaklah sepupu2nya untuk les bareng dia. Abrar, anak gw dan Rayya, anak alm. Adek gw ikut serta dalam les tersebut. Dipilihlah tempat les bernama GAFA. Maksud hati gw sih, ya udah lah si Abrar ikut les baca sebagai tim hurray aja, sekalian dia ketemu sama sepupu2nya, main sambil belajar. Selain itu biar dia juga ga bosen di daycare terus. Cari suasana gitu. Les-nya juga Cuma 1x seminggu. Meskipun begitu, gw juga selipin pesen sponsor,”ABRAR, KALAU BISA BACA DAN TULIS NANTI IBU KASI HADIAH”. Meskipun gw ga menargetkan, kapan dia harus bisa baca dan tulis. Alhamdulillah sih, perkembangan dia di tempat les lumayan. Gurunya bilang dia cukup bisa mengikuti pelajaran.






Untuk ibu2 lebay seperti gw, melihat anak sendiri nulis kata2 "ibu" itu merupakan saat2 yang mengharukan hiks. Mudah2an Abrar makin pinter ya sayang, dan sehat selalu.Amin

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Alhamdulillah, I'm blessed :)

Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi rojiun. I heard news from my father’s brother that he has passed away, after struggling with Cholesterol, Diabetes and Hypertention. My father has 2 sisters and 1 brother, all of them have passed away (the latest one is his brother), and it made him now the only child. I feel sad and also blessed. I am sad because my father has no sibling anymore and I also blessed that, he is still alive(Alhamdulillah) and quit healthy. Well, now he’s 73, so he has some problems with his healthy but still on control. He has Diabletes too, but he often consult to doctor. But at his age, he’s considered as healthy guy. He still can walk, can eat any foods, do golf exercises twice a week. Many of his friends are no longer can walk, stay at wheel chair and can’t do activity freely as before. I also feel blessed that we are still in good condition. My father, mother, hubby, sister, brother, sis-in law, bro-in law, son and nephews are in good condition. We are still healthy, can eat every day, sleep in bed, have decent job, healthy children, etc. Alhamdulillah, I’m very grateful and I hope that GOD will always endow us with HIS bless. Amin

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Communication

Since I get used working with Japanese people, with their way of English Communication for 12 years, Then I moved this Australian company, with their own way of English accent. Well, I got confuse :). My bosses said, "bla bla bla bla..." (in their Australian accent). I answered,"Yes", sometimes smile, eventhough I didn't understand. I just guessing what they said and smile when I thought they said some jokes (the jokes that I even undertand). Hahaha..

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New Office - Preface

Hello Hello Hello!
Now I am at new office, it’s an Australian Engineering Consultant in Oil, Gas and Minings. It’s quiet different with my previous office (Japanese Trading Company). To be honest, I was very scared at first. I have worked at Japanese Company for almost 12 year (this November), then I will move to Australian Company. Different country and business. Today is my 3rd day working here. So far so good. I haven’t found any scary things, all people here are very nice (locals and expats). They all are very friendly. The location of office is also not so far from my home. There are lots alternatives way from my house to this office. For now I just sit around , nothing to do. I hope in a couple days I can have some works to do. It’s quiet awkward if you had so many things to do, then suddenly you just sit down nicely and nothing to do. Well, wish me luck guys!.
Well, there’s one more, I have internet access and I can open social media such as facebook, yahoo, twitter, blogspot, wordpress, etc. Yippi!

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Finally...

After working for almost 12 years (this November), finally I'm resigning from this company. How I feel, hm.. Scared for first time. But, InshaALLAH I will pass it. I will face new environment, new bosses, new colleagues, new company policies. Yeah, I will work at Australian company, moving from Japanese company. From Trading Company into Engineering oil, gas and mining company. I hope I can make it. Wish me luck!

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Happy Eid 1434 H

Asalammualaikum my dear friends :)

Alhamdulillah, we just passed fasting month and lebaran in year 2013. It's happy moment but the other hand it's sad moment too. Happy, because I still meet holy month, month when ALLAH gave so many chances for us to gain pahala, even double, tripple or thousand times bigger. And it's also sad moment, because we have to pass this month. I hope that I still have chance to meet holy month next year, with all my family with very healthy condition. Amin. In this precious moment, I would like to say ,"Minal Aidin Walfaizin. Please forgive me for all mistakes" .

Alhamdulillah, this holy month brought so many happiness and barokah for me. I did fasting in healthy condition. My parents were healthy, my son, my hubby, sister and brother also healthy, Alhamdulillah. My son did fasting for one month full, eventhough only half day. But I really grateful. I got new job, Alhamdulillah. I had chance spent lebaran first day with my mom and dad's family at my mom's house. Alhamdulillah, most of our family came. I also had chance to go to my hubby's hometown at Pamengpeuk - Garut, met my mom's in law and my hubby's relatives. Everything went so smooth and we're happy.

People said that Lebaran is Hari Kemenangan. For me, it's just a start. Eventhough holy month already passed, we still have to nurture our faith in GOD, by praying and trying to be better person. Bye bye holy month, till we meet again. Bismillah


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Cowok Playboy

Kayaknya ga afdol emang ya kalo belum berkenalan sama cowok playboy. Seumur2 gw punya cowok, kebanyakan dari mereka katanya sih playboy, yang pacaran paling lama 3 bulan, Alhamdulillah-nya pas bareng gw sih ga ada indikasi2 playboy. Tapi lain halnya dengan cowok playboy yang satu ini. Kayaknya nightmare banget buat gw. Bayangin aja, tiap hari gw dihujani kata2 cinta, belum lagi sifat over-protective dan over-possesive-nya. Kalo emang dia bener2 cinta sama gw sih, lain halnya. Masalahnya dia nyuruh gw untuk begini-begitu, ga boleh begini-begitu, ga bole punya temen cowok, eh.. tapi dia sendiri jalan dengan cewek2. Udah gitu pagi bisa bilang cinta, ga mau kehilangan, lain halnya siang or sore hari, tiba2 minta putus. Udah gitu dihubungin pun susah, ga diangkat2, pas diangkat yang kedengeran backing vocalnya suara cewek2 *hadeuuuhhh..* capek hati emang punya cowok kayak gini. Sebentar minta putus, sebentar minta baikan, sebentar sayang2an, sebentar kemudian marah2. Dia minta putus , oke gw putus. Terus dia minta balikan, ya udah deh balikan. Lama2 kok ya nyebelin banget! Akhirnya gw pun jadi naik darah. Gw cuekin dia berbulan2, meskipun yang namanya telpon, sms, ga henti2nya dateng. Sampe akhirnya "Oke deh, gw maafin. Kayaknya kok gw keras hati banget". Tapi lama2 ga kuat deh, cukup deh hubungan yang ga sehat seperti itu kurang dari setahun. Bye bye aja, mendingan gw cari hubungan yang lebih sehat dan lebih dewasa. Tapi ya, kenapa ya sampai sekarang gw juga males banget berhubungan sama dia, meskipun hanya sebagai teman. Sempet setelah lama putus dan gw juga udah nikah, dia invite FB gw,lamaa banget sampe berbulan2 ga gw approve. Padahal kan yaa udah cerita lama, ya apa salahnya sih bertemen aja. Akhirnya gw approve tuh invitation pertemanannya di FB. Baru sebentar jadi temennya, ihh kok rasanya ga nyaman gini ya. Di-delete aja deh. Bukannya ga mau maafin, cuma ya males aja berhubungan sama cowok macem gini. Meskipun hanya sebagai temen sekedar muncul di friendlist FB gw.

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Si Anak Piyik Juga Ikut Puasa Loh! *part 2*

Hm.. mungkin salah gue juga yaa yang terlalu bangga sama anak sendiri *well, ibu mana sih yang ga bangga sama anaknya*. Jadi nih, gw kan cerita ke temen gw *yang udah punya anak juga* kalo anak gw itu puasa setengah hari dan kalau puasanya terus selama sebulan ini, dia akan dapet reward, alias hadiah. Terus tanggapannya temen gw :

"Puasa apaan tuh cuma setengah hari. Anak gw yang puasa setengah hari, ya ga dikasi hadiah. Kalo kakaknya yang puasa full sampe Magrib baru dapet hadiah. Dia kalo pulang sekolah ngeliat temennya yang makan, bilang ke gw,"Apaan tuh puasa cuma setengah hari".

JLEB! aduuh.. anak gw kan masih umur 4 tahun ya. Menurut gw itu merupakan pencapaian yang cukup luar biasa untuk seorang anak berumur 4 tahun, menahan makan, minum, dibangunin dari jam 4 pagi, menunggu waktu berbuka meskipun hanya setengah hari. So, sudah sepantasnya usahanya itu gw kasih reward juga. hm.. apa gw yang terlalu berlebihan ya? Ah sudahlah, biarkan saja. Memang yang namanya hidup ga selamanya orang itu sejalan. Pasti ada yang ga setuju, nyinyir atau hm.. berbeda pendapat dari kita. So, just accept it. That is colors of life. Apa pun itu gw tetep bangga sama anak gw dan gw juga bangga akan pencapaiannya. So, tunggu tanggal mainnya ya Brar, ibu InshaALLAH akan beliin kamu hadiah :) Jadi anak yang sholeh ya sayaang. Amin

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Si Anak Piyik Juga Ikut Puasa Loh! :)

Alhamdulillah, selama bulan ramadhan ini Abrar berpuasa. Meskipun bukan puasa satu hari full sampai Magrib, tapi menurut gw untuk anak berumur 4 tahun, sudah cukup hebat. Dia puasa setengah hari saja, sampai jam 11 siang. Tiap hari Abrar selalu dibangunin jam 4 pagi untuk sahur. Alhamdulillah, ga pake drama. Ditanya aja,"Abrar mau puasa ga?" Terus sambil merem dia ngangguk. "Yuk bangun, ini minum susunya". Dia pun duduk dan minum susunya.

Menurut gw puasa itu bagus banget! Kenapa?
Ini dia kegunaannya :

1. Puasa Melatih Kesabaran
Setiap hari puasa dari jam 4 pagi sampai jam 11. Abrar harus bersabar menunggu waktunya berbuka. Dan dia juga harus melatih kesabarannya ketika temen2nya atau sepupu2nya makan, minum di dekat dia. Emang sih, dia selalu nanya,"Ibu, Abrar mo minum susu". Terus kita juga harus sabar untuk menjawab,"Tunggu ya sayang, sebentar lagi".Lama-kelamaan sih dia udah ga nanya2 terus, tapi paling suka mantengin jam. Dia tauk kalo dia buka puasa di angka 11 (sambil nunjukkin 2 jari telunjuk).

2. Puasa Melatih Menahan Hawa Nafsu
Abrar sudah tahu, kalau puasa itu berarti : tidak boleh makan, minum, marah dan nangis. So, dia harus bisa deh menahan2 diri untuk itu semua. Meskipun kadang masih suka nangis juga sih, kalo berantem sama temennya/sepupunya, jatuh, dan lain2.

3. Puasa Melatih Kedisiplinan
Dengan berpuasa, Abrar juga belajar kedisiplinan. Yaitu, kalo sahur itu jam 4 pagi, sebelum masuk imsak. Nanti bukanya jam 11, dimana jarum jam pendek di angka 11 sedangkan jarum jam panjang di angka 12. Antara jam tersebut dia tidak boleh makan dan minum.

4. Puasa Melatih Kejujuran
Yang namanya puasa itu, adalah ibadah antara kita dan Tuhan saja. Bisa aja kita bilangnya puasa ke orang2, tapi di belakang makan-minum. Seperti Abrar,dia puasa kan hanya antara dia dan ALLAH SWT, kalau gw ga ada bisa aja dia makan or minum. Seperti ketika sepupunya menawarkan dia roti/makanan/minuman :

Sepupunya : Nih Brar roti. Makan aja, ga ada ibu.
Abrar : Ga ah, Abrar puasa
*Ibunya nguping dari kamar sebelah, sambil mengucap syukur. Alhamdulillah, jujur :D*

5. Puasa = Effort
Gw juga janjiin ke Abrar, kalau dia bisa full puasa selama sebulan penuh ini, dia akan mendapatkan hadiah. Dengan kata lain, gw mengajarkan kalo yang namanya apa2 itu harus ada effort. Harus ada usahanya dulu. Jadi dia belajar untuk kerja keras, ga selamanya apa yang dia mau bisa terwujud dengan mudah. Harus ada usahanya dulu. Dan InshaALLAH usaha dan kerja keras itu ada hasilnya, ya disini hasilnya adalah hadiah.

Abrar : Nanti Abrar kalo puasanya full, dikasih hadiah.
Sepupunya : Aku juga mau hadiah.
*Liatlah kebanggaan si anak piyik, usahanya membuahkan hasil*

Mudah2an tahun depan Abrar bisa puasa lagi ya, dan waktunya lebih panjang *dimarahin nyokap nih gw*
Yang namanya nenek-nya Abrar, suka kasian kalo liat Abrar puasa. Kesannya ibunya nge-bully anak sendiri. Bayangin aja anak masih kecil, disuruh puasa, ga makan, ga minum, nanti masuk angin gimana, bla bla bla

Nyokap : Dina, itu si Abrar kasian puasa. Masih kecil umur 4 tahun. Mama liat itu mukanya pucet, diem aja.
Kasian banget *kayak lagi ngemarahin emak2 kejam*
Gw : Ya biarin aja ma, emang gitu kok.
Nyokap : Ya namanya anak kecil ga usah lah disuruh puasa2, nanti aja udah gede-an. Nanti masuk angin gimana,
sakit. Nanti kamu yang nyesel.
Gw : Hm... tapi dia pinter kok mah, tahan sampai jam 11. Taon depan bisa kayaknya sampai Magrib
Nyokap : Jangan aneh2 deh!. Kasian lah anak kecil sampe Magrib.
*Jedeg, aduuuhh... begemana ini*

Alhamdulillah, meskipun Abrar rajin puasa, tapi Alhamdulillah juga dia ga sakit. Kemaren ini sepupu2nya pada sakit, panas tinggi, virus kayaknya. Dan syukurlah Abrar masih sehat2 saja. Mudah2an sehat terus ya sayaanngg :) Ibu very proud of you.

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Moedik Itinerary 2013 :p

Yeaaahh!! Lebaran will be coming friends *dancing*. As usual, I will go to my hubby's hometown at Pamengpeuk (if you don't know where Pamengpeuk is, don't look at the map. Because you can't find it there too :D). Pamengpeuk is really faaaarrr faaaarrr away from Jakarta *lebay mode on*. It's located on West Java. To go there we have to go to Bandung --> Garut --> through montains, tea plantations, winding roads--> Pamengpeuk. From Garut about 3 hours (if traffic is smooth). You can find beautiful tea plantations all over the roads, but you only see 1 scenery (tea plantation). No house, no sign, no light, through forest. But don't worry there are only 2 turns : Left and Right. Eventhough the trip is quiet "wild", but I always expect this "mudik". Eventhough I will be queasy with the trip (through mountain and winding roads), but I'm really exciting. First : I do love holiday *yeay*, 2nd : I love Sundanese Foods, 3rd : Meeting family, 4th : love the scenery, beautiful tea plantation, montains, Garut City, and the most of all Beaches. Yeaaah!! Pamengpeuk is surrounded by beaches. The beaches are very beautiful, with white sands, clean water, rocks, background, fisherman boats, etc. So, here is our itinerary :

We will start from 2nd day of Lebaran (1st day is there will be family gathering at my mother's house)
09.08.13 : from Jakarta - Bandung - Garut - Pamengpeuk
We will have a relaxation trip (have a lunch in Bandung or Garut), enjoy the trip.
We hopefully can start from Subuh (let's say 05.00)
10.08.13 : Pamengpeuk (beaches)
Enjoy beaches, meeting family, and buy baso (it's a must!)
Talk about baso or meat ball, this baso it's really delicious hm... with kuah yang kental hm...
11.08.13 : From Pamengpeuk - Bandung
take a rest at Bandung, enjoying Bandung.
12.08.13 : Back to Jakarta
end of journey :)

Bismillah, I hope everything will be smooth. No heavy traffic, no problem with the car, we are healthy, and off course no problem with money!. I hope we can enjoy the trip. How bout you? How is your mudik? :)



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Stupid!

I really hate when people call me stupid or treat me like a stupid person, that's why I can't forget my "dosen pembimbing" at University of Indonesia when I was studying Economics. I got trauma, eventhough I have graduated from year 2010, but I had bad dreams about it until year 2012 (Alhamdulillah, now that dream don't come again, InshaALLAH never again). She treated me like the most stupid person alive. She was prolong my skripsi process until 2 semesters with additional more 2 months. After giving her present (expensive batik danar hadi) she gave me C+ as skripsi's point. After giving that point, she said,"Untung saya masih baik, saya kasih kamu nilai C+).
Well, she's a lecture with very low morale. After giving "sogokan", she gave me point to pass my skripsi. What a shame?!

Damn I really hate that lecture. If killing or torturing someone is not a crime, I will be very happy to do it!. If "guna-guna" is not a sin, I will be very pleased to do it. I want her life miserable. I really feel that I don't deserve of what she's done to me. I have studied at 2 universities before, with good marks (IPK more than 3). Besides, my latest IPK at University of Indonesia was 3.4, until I got C+ for skripsi, the final IPK is 3.17. Suddenly she just judged me as the most stupid person in the world. I remembered when she said :

"Masa' kayak gini aja kamu ga bisa? Katanya kamu dulu lulusan S1 juga di Padjadjaran. Bener kamu dulu lulus di sana?"

"Bahasa Inggris kamu jelek banget sih!. Kamu dulu lulus sekolah ga?"

"Kamu dulu SD-nya di mana sih? bukan negeri ya?"

and there were many sentences that really hurt my feeling :(. She also treated me like trash. She asked me to come to her home at very morning (even birds haven't showing up), which is very far from my house, only to revise my skripsi. Then she asked me right away to change it and print it. Then she asked me to do revision at other place, instead her home. GOD, I'M SORRY IF I CAN NOT FORGIVE HER AND REALLY WANT HER LIFE MISERABLE, LIKE A HELL. I must do it for 2 semesters + 2 months, and what point do I have? only C+. That's the lowest point to graduate. I was very down. I never got bad as the most bad treatment before. I remembered that my last final reports at 2 last universities are A.

Dear GOD, please don't meet me up with that kind of person again. I never want to have that experience again, only once and enough. Dear GOD, please hear my wish. Amin.


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Transformation

Maybe some people have seen me transform from friends-ly into family person. If before when I was young (well now I'm also still young *ngarep*), about 16s until 30s, I was always being with many friends. My friend, even called me, "Anak Gaul". At one time, I was hang out with my group friends A, and the other time with my another groups. I was always out, never at home. I used to talk with my friends, not my family. But, now it's change. Not only me who change, but also my group friends. They become family persons. Not only for my main family, which is : My mom-dad-sisters-brother-brother in laws-sister in laws- hubby-son- nephews, but also with other relatives. We had "arisan keluarga", from my mom's side and dad's side. When I was young, I never like went to this kind of events, arisan, weddings, or everything that related with family. But now, I started to like it.

لَا يُؤْ مِنُ اَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى يُحِبَّ لِاَخِيْهِ مَا يُحِبُّ
لِنَفْسِهِ

"Tidak sempurna iman seseorang sehingga ia mencintai saudaranya sebagaimana ia mencintai dirinya sendiri."
(HR. Bukhari-Muslim)

I love my family, eventhough I also admit that my family itself is not perfect. There are some problems with one and another. Eventhough we come from same parents, but we have different personalities. But my parents always say to us, that they want to see us get along, harmonious. So, eventhough we fought, but I always want us to back together. Not only me but also my other siblings think same way. And we also do same thing with our big family. That's why, FAMILY COMES FIRST. But I'm also still open friendship with other people. Eventhough not always hang out here and there. Same situation happens with my group friends. I think it's very big step for them too. I think we are growing up, become more mature. So, I like this transformation :)

If we can handle relationship with our own family, its show our maturity. Why? Because friends are like surface of the material. We only see them from the top. We don't grow up together, eventhough they are friends from we were kids, but we never stay at 1 roof. We only know them when we meet, chat, curhat, but that's all. If we don't like them, we can erase them from our friendship and find another ones. But family is different, we live together,we saw them from they were baby, until they have children or even grandchildren. The more we see each other and live together, the more we see things that we don't like. But, we must overcome it. (IMHO).

The conclusion is :
"Perlunya untuk tenggang rasa, mencoba untuk menerima kelebihan dan kekurangan orang lain. Bersikap lebih sabar dan memaafkan. Menjauhi sifat egois dan kekanak2an."

I admit that I'm still egoist and childish. But, I want that my son, my nephews or even my grand children still remind me as family. They also feel that "FAMILY COMES FIRST". I believe that if we will be treated as we treat others. So, be careful!

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Amaroosa Hotel Bandung

My family was staying at Amaroosa Hotel on June 29. Hm.. it's been long time, I haven't got enough time and moment to write this review. But today, in this lovely Friday morning, after early breakfast for fasting, I wrote it. Overall, I like Amaroosa Hotel. It's not a big hotel, it's a small boutique hotel with no parking space, little swimming pool more like a fish pond, but very comfort room. First we will see lobby, small lobby with comfort sofas.



But there was no bell boy or anyone who helped us taking our bags to the room. After getting our cards as key to open room, we had to bring our bags to our rooms and no one showing us the way. Btw, since there was not enough parking space, so we had to use vallet parking service. Don't worry, it's free. But, just be patient waiting your cars came, because they had to take your cars. The room was really beautiful. The decoration was victorian style and comfort too. If you want to ironing your clothes, they also provide it.



This hotel also have swimming pool. It's decorated very natural. There's waterfalls, path with white sands and chairs.
But the swimming pool is quite small, it looked like fish pond. But we still had a great time. Kiddos as usually didn't want to quit.



At next morning, we had breakfast. The variety of breakfast was so so. There were somay, baso, jamu, salads, juices, fruits, spagetti, potato, nasi goreng, chicken,meat, vegetable, and bakeries. The taste was so so (IMO).



That's little story from our last vacation. I hope I have chance to review another hotel.


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D.I.L.E.M.A

After struggling with my own thoughts and feelings, finally I accepted the offer at Australian engineering consultant in Oil, Gas and minerals. But then, I got phone call from one of biggest American Oil Company, she asked me to come to their office for an interview. It's so suddenly, and my confusion was starting over again. Fortunately I haven't signed offer from that Australian company. My hubby and my friends said "Why don't give a try. Come to the nterview, watch and see. Maybe they got higher offer". With Bismillah I agreed to come to their office for an interview. The interview itself was going smooth (too smooth I think). After talking for a while, they just like me (Alhamdulillah). But, they can not give salary higher than that Australian company (same amount). But, it's okay. Well, it's pretty much higher than my current job. I have to re-thinking. Which company should I choose. Both of those companies are really tempting. I can't sleep (this phase came again). I talked to my hubby, my sister, my friend. I was also praying and praying. I just didn't know what to do. I really hope for better future. Job, not only good for my self, but also my family (especially my son). I want to have good relationship with my bosses, colleagues, the job itself, environment and also stability in life. I just returned it to GOD, and I pray,"What ever it is, InshaALLAH that the best for me. Please GOD show me the way". Then, this morning e-mail came from HRD of the American Oil Company :

Hi Mba Dina,

Thank you for taking the time to interview with ExxonMobil.
We have reviewed your background, qualification and interests relative to the needs of our organizations within ExxonMobil.
But however, we regret to inform you that there is some changes in our organizations (just now) that we need to cancel our recruiting process for XXXXXX.

Apologize for inconvenient.
We appreciate your interest in ExxonMobil and the opportunity you have given to consider you for working with us.

Hm.. maybe GOD has already given me the sign. After receiving this e-mail, I signed offer from Australian company, and gave my resignation letter to my boss. Bismillah, InshaALLAH everything is going to be OKAY.
I hope for better everything than my current job. Wish me luck! :)

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Piss Off

Alhamdulillah, di hari ke-7 berpuasa, gw berkesempatan sholat di mesjid deket rumah bareng Abrar. Seperti tahun lalu, gw n Abrar menyempatkan diri untuk sholat Isya dan taraweh di mesjid. Abrar sih ga rewel, karena selese-nya jam 9an, dia ketiduran di mesjid. Tugas gw untuk ngebanguninnya dan jalan balik ke rumah (kasian sih sebenernya ngebangunin ini anak piyik, tapi gimana dong berat ajaa kalo gendong dari mesjid ke rumah :( ). Back to cerita yang hari ke-7 di bulan puasa ini, kita juga jalan ke mesjid. Gw bawain Abrar, susu-nya dan bantal untuk dia tidur2an. Segala sesuatunya berjalan lancar, kebetulan gw sampe mesjid setengah jam sebelum waktu Isya, mesjidnya masih kosong. Sambil nunggu waktu Isya, Abrar tidur2an, minum susu dan main games di HP. Setelah mendekati Isya sudah banyak orang yang datang, Alhamdulillah mesjid pun menjadi penuh. Tiba2 datanglah nyokap dan keponakan gw Rayya, Abrar sudah pasti seneng banget bisa ketemu temen. Sholat Isya pun dimulai, Abrar dan Rayya asik main masing2. Namanya anak2, yang satu main mobil2an dan yang satu lagi main little ponny. Mereka ngomong sendiri aja, seperti playing puppet. Setelah Sholat Isya selese, then the problem comes. Tiba2 orang di depan kita, si mbak2 ber-mukena hijau complain. Dia bilang,"BU, ANAKNYA JANGAN BERISIK YA!". Jiaaah... rese' banget itu orang. Gw bilang ke nyokap gw,"YA NAMANYA JUGA ANAK2. MASA' MO DIEM". hm.. I got piss off by that green mukena girl. Hm.. menurut gw sih, anak2 ini ga terlalu ngeganggu kok. Mereka ga teriak2, atau gimana. Mereka hanya main with their own toys, yaa.. namanya main agak berisik dikit, wajar lah. Namanya juga anak2. *Hm.. I become so defensive, well when it comes to my kids, I will defend them* Ga tauk deh, mungkin gw terlalu lebay kali ya. Nyokap gw bisikin gw,"UDAH JANGAN CARI MUSUH". Namanya anak2 agak rusuh ya, tapi ada ibu2 di belakang gw yang bilang. "GAK APA2 KOK BU. NAMANYA JUGA ANAK2. SAYA JUGA PUNYA ANAK. JADI SAYA TAUK". Hm.. toss buat ibu. Tapi lama2 akhirnya gw jadi males jg sih. Apalagi si mbak2 bermukena hijau itu, suka dikit2 nengok ke belakang. Ngeliat2 gimana gitu. Akhirnya gw memutuskan,"YA UDAH YUK MA, KITA PULANG AJA". Pas gw mo pulang, ibu2 di belakang gw nanya,"KOK PULANG NENG?". Gw jawab sambil senyum,"IYA BU, SOALNYA TAKUT GANGGU. YUK BU, MAKASI".

Gw jadi mikir, hm.. gw yang lebay atau gimana ya? Aduhh.. hati gw tuh sakit banget kalo ada orang yang marahin anak gw. Hm.. I'm too possesive then. Ada ga sih seminar untuk menghadapi masalah gw? *NEED HELP*

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Do You Dare to Take The Risk?

After deep thinking can not sleep, can not eat, but not getting skinner :( I decided to take the risk. Ofcourse, I also consulted with my hubby and family, and my hubby really support me LOVE YOU SAYANG and really trust my ability. I told him that if I take this chance, I have to show my performance and there is possibility that I will be jobless. But he really has faith in me :

Our BB conversation :

Hubby : Ya aku mah saranin ambil, kerja sebagus2nya. Kalau nanti kira2 ga diperpanjang, kamu ngelamar lagi ke perusahaan Minyak. Kan kamu udah ada pengalaman di CV di perusahaan minyak.

Me : Kalau misalnya nih, aku ga diperpanjang. belum dapet kerjaan baru. Gimana? Can you handle?

Hubby : Tenang aja, jangan khawatir.Pasti dapet. Percaya kemampuan kamu.


So, what should I do now? Hm.. just pray and hope for the best. Basically I'm not the risk taker, but they said "High Risk, High Profit". With Bismillah, I'll take this challenge. Wish me luck :)

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Pengaruh Jam Tidur Pada Kemampuan Anak

Berikut artikel yang mudah2an bermanfaat diambil dari : BBCIndonesia.com - detikNews

Jadwal tidur anak-anak yang teratur menambah kemampuan otak mereka.

Anak-anak yang memiliki kebiasaan tidur malam dan tidak teratur dapat mempengaruhi kinerja otak mereka, menurut sebuah penelitian.

Penemuan mengenai kebiasaan tidur dan kemampuan otak anak-anak ini berasal dari studi di Inggris yang melibatkan lebih dari 11.000 anak-anak berusia tujuh tahun.

Anak-anak yang tidak memiliki kebiasaan tidur yang teratur atau yang tidur diatas jam 21.00 memiliki skor yang rendah dalam membaca dan matematika.

Kurang tidur kemungkinan akan menganggu ritme tubuh dan menghambat otak untuk mempelajari informasi baru, seperti yang ditulis dalam penelitian tersebut.

Mereka mengumpulkan data dari anak-anak berusia tiga, lima dan tujuh untuk mengetahui bagaimana kemampuan mereka mempelajari sesuatu dan apakah ini kemungkinan akan berkaitan dengan kebiasaan tidur mereka.

Kebiasaan tidur yang tidak teratur banyak terjadi pada anak-anak, sekitar satu dari lima anak-anak memiliki jam tidur yang bervariasi.

Pada usia tujuh tahun, lebih dari setengah anak-anak memiliki jam tidur yang regular antara 19.30 dan 20.30.

Secara keseluruhan, anak-anak yang tidak pernah kebiasaan tidur yang teratur memiliki skor yang lebih rendah dalam tes membaca, matematika dan kepedulian disekitarnya.

Dampak dari kebiasaan tidur ini tampak lebih nyata pada anak perempuan dibandingkan anak laki-laki.



Jadwal teratur
Para penelitian yang dipimpin oleh Prof Amanda Sacker University College London, mengatakan anak-anak dengan jadwal tidur yang tidak teratur merefleksikan keadaan keluarga yang kacau. Jadwal tidur yang tidak teratur itu berdampak pada kemampuan kongnitif anak.

"Kami berupaya untuk menghitung kondisi tersebut," kata Prof Sacker.

Anak-anak yang memiliki kebiasaan tidur malam dan tidak teratur berasal dari latar belakang sosial yang lemah dan sedikit tampaknya membaca sampai tengah malam, dan secara umum menonton televisi yang biasanya ada di kamar mereka.

Setelah mengamati sejumlah faktor tersebut, kaitan antara kemampuan mental yang buruk dan jadwal tidur yang tidak teratur pun muncul.

Penemuan itu dipublikasikan dalam jurnal epidemologi dan kesehatan komunitas.

Prof Sacker mengatakan "Jadwal yang teratur tampaknya penting bagi anak-anak.

"Membuat anak agar memiliki jadwal teratur sedini mungkin merupakan yang terbaik, dan itu tidak pernah terlambat untuk dilakukan."


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ceritanya sih hemat :)

Punya kantor bersebelahan dengan mol besar seperti Grand Indonesia, sungguh2 harus menggunakan kacamata kuda. Apalagi kalo ada SALE besar2an up to 50% or even 70% ga ada ya diskon 90% gitu?. Alhamdulillah sejauh ini gw sih masih bisa menahan diri untuk tidak membeli baju2 SALE utk gw, meskipun toko2nya berjejer memanggil2 gw untuk masuk :D Beda case-nya kalo untuk anak, SALE Mothercare, Seibu, crocs, InshaALLAH disambangin. Ya namanya juga sayang anak :(. Belum lagi restoran2nya, macem2 jenisnya.Ada Duck King, Sushi Tei, Sumpit, Kafe Betawi, Marche,Crystal Jade, Han Gang, Takigawa, Social House, Sky-E dan banyak lagi. Kalo ada diskon dari kartu kredit tertentu, lumayan juga tuh. Tapi, gw tahan2 nafsu untuk ga makan di resto2 itu. Cukup di kantin gedung aja, yang murah meriah. Biasanya makan paginya di kantin, terus makan siangnya, bawa dari rumah. Hemat bukan :). Kalo buat gw sih, Alhamdulillah gw bisa berhemat. Tapi nih ya, sebelah kantor ada Gramedia, liat buku gambar, jadi inget anak di rumah beliin. Liat gunting kecil, inget anak, beliin deh. Liat buku cerita, beliin juga deh. Terus liat crayon, cat air, buku ina inu beliin juga deh. Yaa.. gitu deh, ceritanya sih pengen hemat, tapi kalo udah urusan anak, buyar semua :D Tapi InshaALLAh yang gw beliin untuk anak gw berguna, bukan sekedar mainan2 yang tidak mendidik. *mencari pembenaran*

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D.I.L.E.M.A

Being mother, is not easy. Well, everybody has known about it. I believe that every mom has their own battle. Eventhough she is a working mom, full timer or part timer, or housewife. Being working mom is not easy either. Well, sometimes people see us as mothers who neglect their kids, having fun at their office, leave their children at home. Mothers who don't want to take care their own children. You know what, it's a tough choice for us. Every morning I need to gain so much power to leave my only son. When he ask me to stay, I have to be brave to say No, and keep going to office. I have to be strong enough not to let my tears fall down. Seeing my baby's face, his begging face and crying, is really hurt me. But, I have to go. I need to go to office, working for him too. I really want him to have what the best for him, the best school, the best toys, the best entertainments, the best holidays, everything for him. While on the way to office, if I see a boy as his age with his mother, I really envy her. I really want to be at her place. Let his son in her lap, hug him, talk and tell him story, kiss him, smell him, seeing his smile, it really torture me. When I arrive at office, I start working and get busy with myself. Why? Because I don't want have a room to think about my son. If he's sick, it's really terrible situation. I keep blaming myself, I really afraid if something bad happen to him. But.. I still have to work. It's egois, but life is not as we ask. I work for my family, helping family economy. Being working mom, is not like i dreamed. I have no intention to become a working mom. I pictured my self at home together with my kids, prepare him before going to school, breakfast together, take him to school, pick him up, have lunch together, teach them at home, play with them. If I should work,my dream was working as a teacher not full time one. But, sometimes we can not have what we wish for....

Now, I have to work hard for my son. Helping family economy. Maybe someday, if my hubby's business expanding, and I don't need to work anymore. I can fulfil my dream :)

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Mat-Gay

Ga tauk kenapa, tiba2 BB gw jadi error :( trackpad-nya ga berfungsi, coba untuk ganti trackpad di service BlackBerry, but it's useless. Katanya BB-nya harus disimpen dulu di tempat servis, untuk dilihat. Gw ga masih pikir2 dulu, apalagi kebetulan kemaren itu gw emang lagi "nunggu telpon", jadi dibawa balik lagi deh itu BB. Hari ini, gw pindahin sim card ke HP yang kebetulan nganggur di rumah, so no BBM from yesterday until today. Gimana rasanya? Mat-gay gw :(

Mungkin buat kebanyakan orang, "APA SIH LO?! GA ADA BB AJA BISA MAT-GAY!". Bener deh, bukan apa2, jualan OL gw jadi tersendat *hiikss...* Miris rasanya liat beberapa BBM masuk, tapi ga bisa buka pesannya. Udah gitu, FB di kantor juga di-blocked, dan WIFI-nya pun sama, jadi gw buka FB juga dari BB. Bukannya sok2an mau eksis atau gimana, cuma itu loh pesenan jualan gw juga lewat FB *hiiiikkss...*. Belum lagi whatsapp-nya juga ga bisa dibuka. "PENTING GITU WHATSAPP BUAT ELO DIN?". Penting banget, order-an juga lewat whatsapp. Sedih deh, takutnya nanti customer2 gw pada kecewa. Ahh.. bener2 nih BB, emang dibutuhin banget sama gw.

Maaf ya customerku yang tercinta, bukan maksud hati ingin nyuekin bbm, sms, whatsapp atau message dan comment di FB, tapi sori dori mori BB-ku rusak *huaaa... nangis*

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Face-to-Face Interviews : Secrets, Tricks and Tips

Face-to-Face Interviews: Secrets, Tricks and Tips
(taken from www.michaelspiro.wordpress.com)

For job-seekers in today’s challenging job market, getting in front of an actual live person to interview for a job with a company is a major goal – second only to receiving and accepting an actual job offer! It seems like more and more these days, companies who are interested in a candidate begin their screening process with a phone interview – usually conducted by an internal company recruiter or an HR person. I’ve already posted a separate blog about phone interviews [“Phone Interviews: Secrets, Tricks and Tips.”] For those candidates lucky enough to pass through the phone interview and graduate to a face-to-face interview … this blog is for you!

After coaching and prepping hundreds of candidates for face-to-face interviews over the years, here are some tips, tricks and secrets that I’ve learned that may help. Now I admit that some of this information is identical to my phone interview prep … so, you’ll excuse me if I plagiarize from myself and repeat certain sections from that earlier blog. There are, of course, several very different key aspects to preparing for an in-person interview that are included here.

Research the industry, the company and the players.
Find out everything you can about the place, their business, their products, their position in their industry, their reputation, their competition, their financial stability and the key decision-makers who work there. Study the company’s website, take notes and jot down questions related to their business that you can ask at the end of your interview. Google Search the company and see what else you can find out about them beyond their own website. Look up the company on a professional business database like Dun & Bradstreet’s Million Dollar Database Premier or ReferenceUSA Business. Anyone with a public library card number can log into those databases from any home computer! (Ask your local librarian for help if you don’t know how to do this.) Read and study the company’s information there in detail. You certainly want to sound like you’ve done your homework, and that you are informed about them when asked the inevitable question: “How much do you know about our company?”

Research your interviewer.
Find out everything you can about the person that will be interviewing you. Try to find a bio on the company’s website. See if there is a bio of your interviewer in the personnel listed on the professional business databases mentioned above. Do a Google Search on their name and see what comes up. Look their name up on LinkedIn and check out their profile there. Figure out if you share any of their 1st degree LinkedIn connections, and if so, call those people and ask if they can give you any insights. The more you learn about your interviewer, the better prepared you’ll be to connect on a personal level. Think of ways to use this information as part of the “Nuggets” technique listed below.

Study the job description and prepare stories.
Carefully think through each element of the job description for the position you are interviewing for beforehand and prepare concrete examples of when, where and how you have done all the specific things described in that job description. Telling stories is a very powerful interview technique. Prepare brief stories about your past accomplishments and experiences that illustrate how you provided value to your past employers … and by inference, how you would bring similar value to a new company. Be ready to tell your stories and demonstrate with details how you fit each and every requirement they listed. Try to work those stories into your conversation in a natural way during your interview.

Print out and bring a few copies of your résumé with you.
Most likely, your interviewer will already have a copy in front of them … but sometimes they don’t. If not, it’s always helpful to ask if they’d like to have a copy to refer to – which you just happen to have ready to hand them. You might also be introduced to other people who will want to interview you, and who may not be prepared with a copy of your résumé. It’s best to have them handy.

Dress for Success.
I would advise everyone to dress up for every interview (jacket & tie or a suit for men, conservative business suit and no flashy jewelry for women.) Unless your interviewer specifically instructs you to dress casually for an interview (meaning they brought it up in advance … not that you asked if it would be OK) then this is the accepted rule of thumb. Sure, lots of places are “Business Casual” these days. I’ve seen interviewers dressed in jeans. However, don’t ever assume that means you can dress down for an interview. I’ve had more than one casually dressed decision-maker tell me that they thought a candidate showed a lack of respect by not dressing up for their interview. The bottom line is that dressing up cannot possibly hurt you!

Be on time – not too early, and NEVER late!
Make sure you know exactly where you are going. Verify the exact address and location that you are to meet your interviewer. Use Google Maps or Mapquest to plan your route. If you have one, use a GPS in your car to avoid getting lost. Do a practice driving run if you are unsure of the location. NEVER be late! But, also do not show up more than 5-10 minutes early. (That is disrespectful to the interviewer, and actually shows desperation.) If you do arrive too early, sit in your car and re-read the job description and gather your thoughts. Don’t go in until it’s close to your appointment time. On the other hand, if you do find yourself running late due to unexpected circumstances (severe weather, traffic problems, etc.) make sure you have a phone number with you that you can call to alert your interviewer about your delay. Nothing is worse than showing up late without having called. And then remember to silence your cell phone before you walk in the door!

Have a Firm Handshake.
It may sound obvious, but how you shake hands says volumes about your personality. Practice on someone you trust if needed. You want it to be firm, but not so tight that it feels like you are trying to break bones! The worst is the “fish” handshake – a completely limp hand. That’s just creepy! Almost as bad is gripping someone around their fingers instead of fully locking hands at the base of the thumb. This may sound overly picky, but you’d be surprised how much your handshake contributes to that all-important first impression.

Smile!
Remember to speak clearly, and try to convey enthusiasm and energy through your tone of voice. Smiling helps (really, it does!) Smile as much as possible during the conversation. Try it … you’ll notice that you actually sound very different when you talk through a smile.

Make Eye Contact.
Throughout the interview, make sure you make eye contact with your interviewer. It’s OK if you have to refer to notes, or read something … but be conscious of where your eyes are focusing, and meet your interviewers eyes as much as possible (without going overboard by staring!)

Pay attention to your posture.
Sit up straight in your chair. Do not slouch or lean back. From time to time, a good trick is to lean forward towards the interviewer. When speaking, leaning forward transmits the message that you want to emphasize your point. When listening, leaning forward transmits the message that you are fully engaged in active listening. Also, don’t chew gum!

Mirroring the vocal cadence and body language of the interviewer.
A trick often used by sales people is to listen to the speed and tone of the interviewer’s voice, and try to match it with your own. I don’t mean imitate the person’s voice or accent … but simply talk slower or faster to match the way the other person sounds, and mirror their general tone and level. Mirroring the general body language of your interviewer (which way they’re leaning, crossing their legs, tilting their head, and other broad gestures) has the same effect. Doing this subconsciously makes the other person feel more comfortable with you, and helps you form a connection with them.

Use the “Nuggets” technique to establish rapport.
“Nuggets” are all those little things that you can pick out about a person or a company that you can make a positive comment about, compliment a person on, and use to connect on a personal level with the person you are talking with. When done correctly, using “Nuggets” in an interview can increase your chances of success and cast you in a more favorable light. Everyone loves to hear compliments … and it’s simply human nature for someone to be attracted to someone else who says complimentary things about them, and who seems impressed with them. [For more on this powerful interview technique, read: “Nuggets: A Secret Interviewing Technique.”]

Projecting a Positive Attitude is a critical key.
Concentrate on projecting positive energy and enthusiasm. Try to express passion for your work, a sense of humor, and a genuine aura of optimism. Those are the qualities that make a person attractive to others. It’s nearly impossible to fake those qualities, and frankly it’s one of the main reasons people get hired. Being able to convey a positive attitude is critical. [For more on this, read: “The Power of a Positive Attitude.”]

Questions, Questions, Questions.
There are literally hundreds of different questions that interviewers might ask, depending on the position of the interviewer, and their interview style. I do not intend to list specific questions and how to answer them here. A simple Google Search on “Interview Questions” will take you to dozens of great websites that go into great detail on that topic. I will say that the most common thing you’ll hear from almost every interviewer near the beginning of your meeting is some variation of: “Tell me about yourself.” Answering that is pretty basic, and also fairly critical. Don’t ask “where should I begin” – a sure sign of someone who needs to be spoon-fed instructions instead of thinking on their feet … definitely not the message you want to give! Also, don’t give an autobiography of your entire life starting with where you were born, where you went to school, what your hobbies and interests are, etc. – all personal items to be filed under the category of “too much information.” Keep your answer focused on your professional profile as it relates to this job and this company. Be prepared to give an expanded version of your “Elevator Pitch” in which you give an overview of your most recent and most relevant career experiences, and your professional goals. Try, if possible, to reference elements in their job description, and how your skills and experiences match it. Remember to use your prepared stories if you can. However, don’t let this answer go on too long … keep it well under 5 minutes. It’s OK to ask when you are done: “Would you like me to go into greater detail on anything in particular?”

Be a good listener, and never interrupt.
Any good interview is a 2-way exchange of information. Let the interviewer talk and lead the discussion without interrupting. Listen carefully, and then give thoughtful answers. Answer questions directly and completely, but try not to go off on tangents or “over-talk” your answers. It’s better to give a brief answer, and then ask “is that what you wanted, or should I give you more details?” Candidates often get nervous and talk too much during interviews, trying way too hard to “sell themselves.” While talking, pay attention to the body language of your interviewer and watch for signs of boredom – fidgeting, looking at their watch, etc. – and cut yourself off if see them. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve debriefed interviewers who complained about candidates who talked on and on and on during interviews, without letting the interviewer get a word in edgewise! Sometimes it’s better to simply shut up and listen!!!

Don’t bring up salary or benefits … but be prepared to answer the Dreaded Salary Question directly if asked.
Never be the one to bring it up … but if asked point blank what you made at your last job, or what your salary expectations are going forward – don’t play games or avoid answering. You need to prepare direct and truthful responses to those questions. If this topic came up in a prior phone interview, make sure your answers are consistent with what you said before. It’s best to be honest about your history, and to give a range for your expectations (rather than a specific number.) Your history is what it is – you can’t change it, and delaying telling them serves no purpose. And your expectations should not be a moving target … you should know what you need as a minimum, and what range makes sense based on your history. Now it is true that if the range you give does not overlap with the range that they have budgeted for the job you are pursuing, they will very likely eliminate you from consideration. On the other hand, if you dance around this issue and/or refuse to give a straight answer, then that is just as likely to raise a red flag that will eliminate you here. There are simply too many qualified applicants for every open job for most companies to want to deal with someone who can’t give a straightforward answer on this. The bottom line is that if your salary expectations do not match what they can pay, then it’s a waste of both your and their time to continue pursuing this position. They’ll find out eventually, so it’s better to know sooner rather than later. [For more details on this topic, read: “Answering the Dreaded Salary Question.”]

Prepare a list of questions you can ask.
Almost every interviewer asks near the end of an interview: “Do you have any questions?” Candidates are often judged by the quality of the questions they ask … and candidates who have no questions at all might be perceived as having no interest in the position. Some suggested ideas for general questions are: “How long have you been with the company, and what do you like about it?” “How would you describe the company culture here?” “What characteristics have made your best employees successful here?” You might also want to think of more specific questions about the company or their products, based your research. [For more on this, read: “'So, Do You Have Any Questions?' Nailing the Interview Closer.”]

At the end of the interview, clarify the next steps.
If you are interested in this job, make sure to say so! (“I just want to let you know that I am very interested in this opportunity, and hope we can move forward. What is the next step?”) Don’t leave without determining what the expectations are for the next steps, and how and when YOU should follow-up. Ask what their timetable is for hiring, and how their hiring process works. Also make sure you get a business card with the email address and phone number of your interviewer, and send them a thank-you email that same day. If you met with more than one person, get everyone’s cards and do the same with them. Then immediately make a note on your calendar of when your pro-active follow-up call will be if you don’t hear back from them first. If you really want this job, don’t just sit back wait for them to make the next move. You have to go after it!

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Tips and Tricks Menghadapi Bos yang Rese

Untuk menghadapi bos yang rese, ada beberapa tips and tricks :
1. I'm cool --> berusaha untuk tetap tenang
2. I'm peace --> jangan meng-konfrontasi si bos
3. I'm professional --> jadikan bos sebagai "klien", bersikap netral, perhatikan. Jangan curhat dan komplain
4. Say it words --> biar bos tidak lupa, kirim e-mail juga (bentuk tertulis)
5. I don't do drama --> Jangan bikin drama, dengan melakukan hal2 yang aneh2.
6. I'm no gossiper --> tenang, tetap mengontrol dan liat situasi. Tidak perlu di-gosip-in ke seluruh kantor
7. I'm independent --> jadi karyawan yang mandiri
8. Still be possitive dan rational

Atau seperti artikel di bawah ini :

Mungkin setiap Anda yang membaca artikel ini memiliki pengalaman buruk dengan atasan yang kurang menyenangkan. Bos seperti ini ada di mana-mana. Tidak ada yang tahu darimana mereka datang atau apa yang menyebabkan mereka dapat bersikap buruk. Namun, setiap bos yang menyebalkan memiliki sisi baik, bahkan jika Anda merasa tidak tahan berhadapan dengannya. Banyak tips yang dapat Anda lakukan untuk menghadapi temperamen atasan Anda yang sulit dan membuat kehidupan profesional Anda menjadi lebih mudah.

1. Jangan Menjadi Emosional

Tergantung sifat seperti apa yang dimiliki orang tersebut, terdapat beberapa tips yang berbeda untuk meghadapi atasan yang sulit. Seringkali, bos yang benar-benar sulit memiliki karakter yang membuatnya berperilaku kasar atau terlalu kritis. Dalam hal ini, hal terbaik yang dapat Anda lakukan adalah menjaga agar emosi Anda tetap terkendali. Jangan menanggapi perilaku emosional tersebut, karena hanya dapat membuat Anda disalahgunakan dengan lebih buruk. Bahkan bisa menjadi suatu hal yang egois dan Anda tidak akan menginginkan memiliki benturan yang seperti itu dengan atasan Anda.

2. Rencana B

Ketika berhadapan dengan bos yang sulit, Anda cenderung menghindari konfrontasi maupun diskusi dalam bentuk apapun. Hal itu dapat dimengerti dan selalu terjadi dalam situasi seperti ini. Jadi, sangatlah baik bila Anda memiliki beberapa rencana ke depan, hanya untuk berjaga-jaga jika situasi tidak berjalan seperti yang diharapkan. Rencana B Anda mungkin melibatkan pengetahuan bahwa Anda telah dijamin pekerjaan lain sebelum mebicarakan topik yang sensitif ini dengan atasan Anda, atau mungkin Anda dapat menghadiri rapat kerja dengan beberapa kemungkinan strategi yang berbeda.

3. Diskusikan, Jangan Konfrontasi

Berbicara tentang konfrontasi, jangan pernah lakukan itu. Anda tidak akan pernah menginginkan konfrontasi dengan atasan yang sulit. Jika atasan Anda bersikap kritis terhadap Anda, jangan langsung melawan dan menunjukkan sifat defensif. Konfrontasi semacam itu hanya akan mengakibatkan hal yang buruk bagi Anda. Mungkin hal itu melukai hati Anda, tapi lawanlah kritik yang dilontarkannya untuk meminta nasehat. Atasan Anda mungkin hanya memiliki cara yang berbeda dalam melakukan sesuatu.

4. Periksa Diri Anda Sendiri

Tips untuk menghadapi atasan yang sulit juga perlu diberlakukan pada diri Anda sendiri. Pastikan Anda telah memeriksa perilaku Anda terlebih dahulu, dan evaluasi kinerja pekerjaan Anda. Apakah Anda telah melakukan sesuatu yang salah? Apakah Anda telah memaksa atasan Anda dengan beberapa cara? Terkadang kita memberikan petunjuk negatif tanpa bermaksud melakukannya, dan hal itu dapat menyebabkan atasan Anda berperilaku buruk terhadap Anda.

5. Miliki Seorang Mentor

Seringkali, memiliki seseorang untuk diajak bicara dapat mendatangkan manfaat dalam banyak area. Dengan menempatkan seseorang di perusahaan Anda yang dapat bertindak sebagai mentor, Anda memiliki kesempatan untuk mendapatkan nasehat yang baik untuk menghadapi situasi tersebut. Anda dapat melihat manajemen yang baik itu seperti apa, dan Anda akan memiliki seseorang kepada siapa Anda dapat mencurahkan isi hati.

6. Buatlah Daftar

Tips lain untuk menghadapi atasan yang sulit adalah dengan merinci semua perilaku buruknya. Anda mungkin tidak akan pernah menunjukkan daftar ini kepada atasan Anda, namun berlatih melakukan hal ini dapat menjadi sebuah katarsis. Anda dapat melihat secara hitam putih apa yang paling mengganggu Anda. Selain membiarkan Anda melampiaskan perasaan Anda, metode ini juga dapat membantu Anda membayangkan cara-cara yang dapat Anda lakukan untuk menangkal atau mengatasi perilaku buruk atasan Anda.

7. Mengetahui Keterbatasan Anda

Harimau tidak dapat mengubah garis-garis tubuhnya. Jika duduk dan berbicara dengan atasan Anda sepertinya tidak dapat menjadi pilihan, Anda mungkin harus menerima kenyataan bahwa Anda tidak dapat mengubah perilaku atasan Anda. Atasan Anda mungkin secara umum adalah seorang yang sulit. Dari sini, Anda bisa belajar untuk tidak mengambil hati segala hal yang dikatakan atasan Anda, dan berhentilah untuk menjelek-jelekkan atasan Anda. Bos Anda bukanlah seorang yang mengerikan, hanya atasan Anda – seseorang yang harus Anda hadapi sampai salah satu dari Anda mendapatkan posisi yang berbeda atau mendapatkan pekerjaan yang baru.

Selalu ada keterbatasan bila berhubungan degan orang lain. Anda tidak dapat mengubah setiap orang, dan beberapa orang memang tidak ingin berubah. Jadi, satu-satunya hal yang dapat Anda lakukan adalah mengubah respon Anda dengan cara yang lebih positif.
Source : allwomenstalk


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Manusia Cemen!
Ya itulah gw :(

Bermula dr keinginan gw utk pindah kerja, utk nyari kerjaan yg lbh baik dan yg paling utama gaji yg lebih besar. Setelah. Mengirimkan banyak aplikasi dan CV, hingga akhirnya sebuah perusahaan minyak Inggris memanggil utk interview. Tapi, lokasinya terlalu jauh, antara rumah gw yg ada di Cempaka Putih sedangkan lokasinya di TB Simatupang Jakarta Selatan. Sebagai seorang ibu dr seorang anak, rasanya terlalu berat utk gw hrs bekerja sejauh itu. Berarti gw harus mengorbankan wkt kebersamaan gw dengan anak gw. So, jarak ǰαϑȋ masalahnya. Kemudian sebuah perusahaan German yg sudah lumayan besar di negara asalnya, di benua Eropa serta Amerika, ingin membuka perusahaan di Jakarta. Lokasi kantor di Pluit, adalah kendala awal utk gw. Lumayan jauh dan macet, kedua masalah settling new company, with no clear job description, itu ǰαϑȋ masalah jg buat gw. Meskipun gw akan ǰαϑȋ orang kepercayaan bos, tp gw memikirkan pekerjaan yg pastinya akan sgt byk, it reminds me again to my only son. Kemudian perusahaan
Oil Australia, menawarkan pekerjaan dengan contract based 1 year. It's tough choice, karena gw slm ini gw kerja sdh ǰαϑȋ permanen. Kalau pada akhirnya kontrak gw ga diperpanjang gimana? Apalagi denger2 bos-nya itu agak rese dan disebelin sekantor. Saya takut kalo nanti saya mau cuti tiba2 karena anak sakit, bagaimana? Kalau lingkungan kerja saya tidak menyenangkan, atau bos yg rese dan menyebalkan. Gw sdh terbiasa dgn kantor yg sdh 12 th lbh gw bernaung di sana. Hmmmm... How can I move on? Memang saya manusia cemen, dengan tll byk pertimbangan dan takut utk keluar dr "zona nyaman". *sigh*

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Seni Menjilat Bos (alias cari muka) :p

Berikut adalah cara2 untuk memenangkan hati bos, alias seni menjilat bos :D

How To Win Your Boss' Heart
(taken from www.bdtips.com)


It is very hard to find a boss as you expect to have. In fact, human nature is so that you can't ever like a boss. Yet, some of us claims they have a very good boss. Well, they could be lucky. But what about you? Is your boss making things difficult for you? Well, work on these magic tips to win your Boss over. Give it a try.


1. Always come at office in time preferably at least 10 – 15 minutes early and never leave before the time. It is always better to see boss before you leave the office, there may be some emergency work which your boss may forgotten and after seeing you, it comes in his mind. --> Jangan telat dan selalu liat2an sama bos sebelum pulang *hm.. kalo bos-nya ganteng, enak kali ya. Tapi kalo enggak, eneg juga ya :D

2. In that case do the work happily before the departure. --> ajegile, berbahagia mengerjakan tugas yang diberikan pas jam pulang kantor?? hm... senyum ngerjainnya, tapi dalem hati ngedumel *tralala trilili*

3. Pay attention to the work given to you by your boss and try to finish it before the dead line. --> noted!

4. Consult with your boss regarding given work and talk to him for any suggestion. --> intinya selalu menjadikan
si ibu or bapak bos sebagai seseorang yang dihormati, respect. *bos kan gila respect, ya gak?*

5. Never criticize you boss, it will do harm quickly to your ratings that is annual confidential report or your
long waiting promotion. --> Boss is always right, if bos's wrong, see article 1 :D

6. If you have any emergency personal work during office time, take permission from boss , go do your work and
return back. In this case, always see your boss after return. --> intinya sering2 sowan ke bos :D

7. Share your knowledge and experience while in meeting. --> aku kan pemalu dan pendiam *wink wink*

8. Submit best point in favor of your company or office while at meeting --> harus proaktif ya kalo meeting, ga
bisa diem aja terus ketiduran zzzzz...

9. Do not make your talk lengthy in meeting. It may give bad impression. Allow others to talk --> noted, ini
gampang. Soalnya males juga ngomong di meeting :D

10. Praise co-workers for their nice effort in presence of boss. --> aku kan orangnya baik, suka memuji :)

11. Give your opinion about any topic and place, and the pros and cons of a situation. --> harus mikir nih *sigh*

12. Never argue with boss, if any situation arises, make him understand politely, he will surely understand, after
all he is a human being. --> back to 1st article : Bos is always right! :D

13. Greet him occasionally when time comes specially new year day, Eid days etc. --> siipp laah..!! siapa tauk
aja sekalian dikasi angpau :D

14. Do not forget his birthday or marriage day. Try to give him a gift, at least a pen or at story book. It will
give him your nice impression. --> tanya2 sama HRD ya tgl ultah dan ulang tahun pernikahannya dan agak modal dikit ya untuk beli hadiah? penting gitu? *anak buah merki*

15. Praise your boss in his successful works and suggest him for the work those you find less success.--> ngejilat
terus :D

16. Console him personally in any sad news and stand with him to share the sorrows and sufferings. --> ofcourse,
aku kan anaknya perhatian dan simpatik

17. Try to share boss responsibilities, if you found him buried in lot of work. --> walah, new tons of jobs? OH NO!

18. Respect him. Respect makes a man great. --> OK lah, yang namanya bos ya always be bos :)

Finally, feel a boss like your relative, near and dear one. Never desert him in his bad time. Be honest and sincere to your duties and responsibilities, I am sure you can win the heart of your boss. Remember, boss is always boss. --> di-bold dan italic, biar jelas :)



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K.A.Y.A

Kemaren ini gw sempet ngobrol sama temen gw lewat whatsapp. Awalnya gw Cuma nanya mengenai pekerjaan, tapi end up-nya tuh jadi panjaaaaanng, sampe tentang keluarga, investasi, anak, usaha sendiri, falsafah hidup dan lain2. Yang menggelitik gw yaitu ketika temen gw berkata kalo cita2 hidupnya ga muluk2, dia ga berniat untuk jadi orang kaya. Tapi buat dia hidup sederhana, dapat menghidupi dan mencukupi kebutuhan hidup keluarga serta anak2 itu lebih penting. Menurut gw, cita2nya mulia banget meskipun gw punya opini sendiri. Hidup itu buat gw, yang utama pastinya bahagia dunia akherat, dan kedua bisa bermanfaat untuk orang banyak. Dan menurut gw menjadi kaya itu ga salah juga, as long as kekayaan itu bisa menjadi kendaraan kita menuju Syurga. Apabila kekayaan itu digunakan di jalan ALLAH SWT, untuk berjihad, membangun masjid, membuat yayasan, sekolah, madrasah, rumah yatim piatu, membantu fakir miskin, anak yatim, hal2 yang bermanfaat untuk orang banyak di dalam kebaikan.

Dari Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu ‘anhu dia berkata:
جاء الفقراء إلى النبي فقالوا: يا رسول الله، ذهب أهل الدثور من الأموال بالدرجارت العلا والنعيم المقيم، يصلون كما نصلي، ويصومون كما نصوم، ولهم فضل من أموال يحجون بها ويعتمرون ويجاهدون ويتصدقون، وليست لنا أموال…وفي رواية مسلم: فقال رسول الله في آخر الحديث: “ذلك فضل الله يؤتيه من يشاء” (متفق عليه).

“Orang-orang miskin (dari para sahabat Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) pernah datang menemui beliau shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, lalu mereka berkata: “Wahai Rasulullah shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, orang-orang (kaya) yang memiliki harta yang berlimpah bisa mendapatkan kedudukan yang tinggi (di sisi Allah Ta’ala) dan kenikmatan yang abadi (di surga), karena mereka melaksanakan shalat seperti kami melaksanakan shalat dan mereka juga berpuasa seperti kami berpuasa, tapi mereka memiliki kelebihan harta yang mereka gunakan untuk menunaikan ibadah haji, umrah, jihad dan sedekah, sedangkan kami tidak memiliki harta…“.

Hadits yang agung ini menunjukkan besarnya keutamaan orang kaya yang memanfaatkan kekayaannya untuk meraih takwa kepada Allah Ta’ala, dengan menginfakkan hartanya di jalan yang diridhai-Nya.

Imam Ibnu Hajar al-’Asqalani berkata, “Dalam hadits ini (terdapat dalil yang menunjukkan) lebih utamanya orang kaya yang menunaikan hak-hak (Allah Ta’ala) pada (harta) kekayaannya dibandingkan orang miskin, karena berinfak di jalan Allah (seperti yang disebutkan dalam hadits di atas) hanya bisa dilakukan oleh orang kaya”
Dari artikel 'Keutamaan Orang Kaya Yang Bersyukur — Muslim.Or.Id'

Islam mendukung orang2 untuk berusaha, bekerja keras hingga menjadi kaya,asalkan caranya halal bukan hasil KKN (korupsi, Kolusi, Nepotisme), dan bukan pula dengan cara mencekik orang lain (praktek riba) serta mengambil keuntungan terlalu besar. Digunakan di jalan ALLAH dan bermanfaat untuk orang banyak, bukannya untuk berfoya2, untuk dihambur2kan, gaya hidup hedon, namun tetap bersahaja dan sederhana. Jauh dari sifat sombong dan tamak. Sebagaimana diperibahasakan oleh orang tua kita dahulu bagaikan padi semakin berisi semakin merunduk, semakin berilmu dan beramal maka semakin tawadhu, rendah hati dan tidak sombong.

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Being Positive

Gw sangat percaya, kalau "People will be treated as they treat others".

Kita akan diperlakukan baik, apabila kita juga memperlakukan orang lain dengan baik. Kita akan dihargai, apabila kita juga menghargai orang lain. So, when things were not happened as we're predicted, gw akan ngeliat ke diri gw lagi dan mencoba untuk mengkoreksi diri lagi. Tapi banyak orang juga yang bilang,"Udah deh, jangan baik2 sama orang, makin kita baik orang makin ngelunjak". Hm... hal2 kayak gini emang sering banget terjadi, tapi gw coba berfikir lagi, being positive will return in positive too. Gw coba ya kasih contoh kasus :

si A orangnya sangat2 positif, dia ga punya negative thinking sama orang lain. Hidupnya tuh lurus2 aja, buat dia ga ada orang yang jahat. Kalau pun akhirnya ada yang jahat sama dia, dia tetep berusaha untuk positif. Suatu ketika ada seorang teman, bukan temen deket, hanya temen sekedar temen kenal beberapa waktu doang, datang untuk minjam uang ke si A. Bilangnya sih untuk biaya kuliah, meskipun gw sih sangsi itu orang butuh duit untuk biaya kuliah secara temennya itu orang mampu juga. si A pun meminjamkan uang pada temennya itu, meskipun si A bukan orang kaya, dia orang susah sebenernya, uangnya juga cuma segitu2nya. Pada akhirnya, orang yang minjem uang ke si A tidak membayar hutangnya, hingga saat ini, sudah bertahun2 lamanya. Terus, si A marah ga? Enggak tuh. Dia tetep positif, dia bilang,"Mungkin orang itu tidak punya uang, dan mudah2an uangnya bermanfaat untuk dia". Terus, uangnya ga kembali gimana? padahal kan uangnya cuma segitu2nya. Dia bilang,"Rezeki mah dari mana aja". Terus sekarang apakah si A sudah berubah jadi orang kaya? Tidak juga. Namun dia tetep menjadi orang yang selalu bersyukur pada TUHAN. Selalu mempunyai alasan untuk selalu bersyukur pada sang Pencipta. Menurut gw, he's very rich person. Not rich in materials, but rich in heart :). Tanpa dia sadari, dia mempunyai banyak teman, banyak orang yang care dan sayang sama dia. Teman2 yang juga berfikir positive seperti dia. Usahanya juga semakin lancar, meskipun tidak besar namun barokah untuk keluarganya.

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Im Proud Mother

Cinta orang tua pada anaknya, adalah cinta yang tidak bersyarat. Bukannya "Karena" Namun "Meskipun".

Gw adalah salah satu ibu yang sangat proud pada Abrar. Bukan karena dia sudah bisa baca, bisa matematika, anak yang diem, nurut, pinter,makannya banyak, dll. Tapi Meskipun dia belum bisa baca, tapi gw tetep bangga sama dia. Meskipun dia belum bisa matematika, tapi gw tetep menganggap dia hebat. Meskipun dia bukan anak yang diem, super duper aktif dan ga bisa diem, tapi gw sangat menyayanginya. Meskipun dia belum bisa baca, berhitung, matematika, tapi buat gw dia anak yang pinter. Meskipun dia kalo makan jalan2, lama, tapi gw tetep tidak merasa itu adalah masalah. Buat gw, apa pun Abrar, bagaimana pun dia, I always proud of him.

Ada banyak hal yang dapat gw banggakan dari anak gw, mungkin untuk ibu2 lainnya, itu hal sepele. Tapi buat gw, he's genius. Abrar anak yang mempunyai perasaan yang peka pada orang lain, he likes sharing things with his friends. Dia tidak pernah pelit dengan mainannya, dia mau berbagi dengan orang lain. Dia anak yang sangat ramah, senang berteman, hatinya sangat baik. Dia anak yang tidak menaruh dendam pada orang lain, meskipun dia disakiti, namun dia selalu dengan cepat dapat memaafkan orang lain. Dia anak yang sangat menyayangi orang tuanya, nenek-kakek, saudara2nya, tidak segan2 untuk bilang, "Abrar sayang ibu" pada pagi hari, ketika ibunya baru bangun dan memeluk ibunya. Abrar anak yang senang bernyanyi, dia dapat mudah menghafal banyak lagu2 anak dan juga lagu orang gede. Sampai2 gurunya pernah menegur gw,"Bu, Abrar jangan diajarin lagu orang dewasa". Ibunya bingung, soalnya kapan ngajarinnya. Tauknya dia hafal lagu Cakra Khan dari awal sampai akhir *belajar di mana ya? di rumah ga diajarin. di sekolah apalagi. Pembantu ga punya, nonton TV jarang*. Ini masih jadi tanda tanya buat gw :D. Ibu sudah dapat menghafalkan doa2 pendek. Dia anak yang cerewet, pinter ngomong dan selalu punya argumen untuk setiap omongan orang lain. Dia sangat menyukai alat2 transportasi, mobil, pesawat dan kereta. Dia punya pengetahuan umum yang bagus. Ketika melihat banjir, dia akan bilang,"Yaaa.. banjir :( Saluran drainase ga bener sih!, pohon2 ditebangi dan orang2 yang buang sampah sembarangan" Atau ketika dia melihat mobil2 berseliweran di jalan raya, dia bisa menyebutkan merk2 mobil tersebut, "Avanza, Fortuner, Yaris, Honda, BMW, Mercedez,dll". Atau ketika kita mau naik pesawat, dia bilang,"Ibu liat itu garbarata!". Atau dia juga hafal nama2 kereta cepat,"Di Jepang, Shinkansen, di Cina :Maglev, di Perancis : TGV, di Inggris : Eurostar, di Shanghai, apa yaa gw juga lupa, but he knows :) dll". Buat gw,untuk seorang anak berusia 4 tahun,itu sangat membanggakan. Mungkin untuk ibu2 lain, Abrar bukanlah anak yang special atau genius. Tapi buat gw, he's very special, and I'm very proud of him. *hugs Abrar*

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my experience working at Japanese Company

Udah almost 12 tahun gw kerja di perusahaan Jepang yang satu ini. Gw ga tauk kenapa bisa lama banget ya! dan kayaknya gw pun dikutuk ga bisa kemana2 *hiks..*

Gw mo cerita tentang pengalaman gw kerja di perusahaan penjajah di Indonesia ini. No wonder kalau mereka menjajah hanya sebentar, tapi imbas-nya lebih menderita daripada dijajah sama Belanda bertahun2. Selama kerja di perusahaan ini, gw emang mendapatkan ilmu yang banyaak, dan kerjaan yang sangat bervariasi, namun dengan gaji yang kecil (kalau dibandingin sama perusahaan asing lainnya). Kerjaan kita di sini, udah macem pembantu serba bisa, dari yang namanya bungkusin kalender untuk akhir tahun, moto copy, ngejilid ber-buku2 *bisa langsung buka toko fotokopian*, filing, auditing, update business, customs, akunting sampe finance. Ga heran kalo kita tuh di-kasi training segala macem, dari business, customs, finance, compliance, security trade, accounting, bla bla bla.. Trus tittle lo apa sih? "Business Administration/ secretary". Ada hal2 yang bisa gw tarik dari perusahaan ini :

Case A :
gw punya customer, ini customer parik yang paling besar di Indonesia, perusahaan Asing Belgian, pastinya gajinya lebih gede berkali2 dari kantor gw, order-annya juga banyak. Mereka membagi2 kerjaan mereka ke 5 orang untuk bisnis flow, dan dihadapi oleh seorang gue. Tapi ya kerjaannya ga bener *dong dong*, beda banget sama kalo customer gw perusahaan Jepang juga. Ga benernya gini nih, misalnya :
Perusahaan ini meng-cancel order-annya, dan disampaikan oleh regional marketing manager-nya yang orang Mesir, ganteng, cakep *oi.. fokus oi..*. Dan imelnya di-cc ke-semua staff-nya. Terus, anak buahnya si bapak A tiba2 e-mail gw,"Mbak, barang yang ini kok belum dikirim?". Terus gw jawab,"Pak, kan si bos ganteng udah cancel ordernya, pls refer e-mail yang ini *gw quote dong e-mailnya*". Bapak A bilang,"Oh gitu". Oke, selese dong masalahnya. Terus si bapak B tiba2 e-mail,"Mbak, dokumen untuk shipment April mana?". Jiaaah.. sama aja nih orang, gw reply dong e-mailnya, gw bilang kalo barang itu di-cancel sama bos ganteng. Oke, udah selese dong ceritanya. Terus si ibu C e-mail, "Mbak, untuk dokumen pengiriman kapal yang ini, salah tuh. Minta di-revisi begini begitu". Terus gw bilang,"Mbak, kan di-kontrak bilangnya begitu, kok sekarang tiba2 minta ganti." Dalam hati gw, emang elo kagak baca kontraknya apa?. Terus dia jawab,"yang cek kontrak si bapak B". Laah..terussss, emang situ kagak ada koordinasi ape yee *garuk2 kepala*. Yowes, gw ganti dong ya dokumennya,sesuai permintaan si ibu C, terus di-imel-in dulu. Si bapak B reply,"Mbak, dokumennya ganti ya. Bukan begitu". Jiaaah... kok ga sinkron ye. Gw tanya lagi, jadinya gimana nih?.Terus dijawab,"Iya, harusnya yang ini (dia revisi lagi)". Sabar..sabar...! Gw ganti lagi dunk ye itu isi dokumen, gw reply ke dia. Dia bilang "OKE". Fiuuh... udah selese dong ceritanya. Eh, tiba2, dia imel lagi,"Mbak, lebih baik lagi kalo isi dokumennya, begini. Description goods-nya minta diganti lagi.". Jiaaah... gw tonjok lo!. Oke deh, akhirnya gw reply, gw betulin lagi itu isi dokumennya. si ibu C jawab,"Oke, tolong kirim dokumen secepetnya". Ajegile, ini orang2 ya.. udah bikin masalah, ga ada rasa bersalah, terus minta cepet2 pula, deziggh! gw hajar lo satu2 *grrrhhh...*. Belum lagi masalah2 lainnya. Gw udah kirim copy shipping documents ke semua-nya, eh tiba2 si bapak B minta dikirimin shipping documents. Jiaaah.. kagak baca imel apa yak??!. Terus nanti si bapak B, dapet imel dari KSO (Surveyor), padahal berkaitan dengan aplikasi dia, eh minta penjelasannya dari gw. Jiaaah... kacau! Judulnya : Me against the world. Ga seimbang sebenernya, keroyokan lawan 1 orang :D

Case B :
Perusahaan gw ini, pinter banget negosiasi. Hukum dasarnya, mencapai keuntungan sebesar2nya dengan kerugian seminim mungkin. Ya elo bisa liat deh dengan angka gaji gw yang signifikan kecilnya *hela nafas sedih*. Ini bukannya tanpa bukti, gw ngelamar kerjaan di sebuah perusahaan nasional, untuk apply jadi secretary. Dan kerjaannya ga se-ribet di sini, tapi gajinya 2x lipet. Tapi hikss... ga dapet, soalnya kata HRD-nya,"Maaf mbak, saya dan bos saya sudah suka banget, dan sudah ajuin ke user akhirnya, tapi kata dia, mbak over qualified untuk jadi secretary" Glegg.. padahal gw ga masalah kok. Soalnya si bapak HRD udah pernah ngomong sama gw, dia bilang,"Mbak, gak apa2 cuma jadi secretary dan gaji XXX (2x gaji gw)". Gw jawab,"Gak apa2". Ah belum rezeki kali ya :( *maaf curcol*. Lanjut ke perusahaan gw, yang pinter banget negosiasi. Kalo liat kontrak yang dibuat sama perusahaan gw, banyaaakk term and condition di belakang contract. Kalo customer-nya ga teliti, males baca *kebanyakan sih pada males*, mereka pasti kena jebakan batman ini. Alhamdulillah, most of customers gw kena jebakan *hihihihii.. kasiaaan deh lo!*. Terus nih, pernah gw bareng temen gw (Person In Charge projek baru, tapi ini bapak udah kerja di perusahaan bertahun2 almost 25 years). Gw diajak dong ketemu customer, untuk ngomongin masalah bisnis, bapak itu dan gw sebagai pemanis (sumpah gw kagak ngerti ini bisnis apaan, jadi gw diem aja.). Sampai di tempat customer, meeting berjejer deh tuh dari bos, marketingnya ada 3, produksi, keuangan,total 7 orang. Negosiasi berjalan alot, si customer minta A,B,C. Terus si bapak kekeuh, we can not. Dia bawa file segede2 bagong, kasi liat bukti imel dan lain2nya. Si customer sahut-menyahut menjadi satu, bergotong royong membantai si bapak. Tapi si bapak tidak ada rasa takut or jiper. Meeting berlangsung setengah hari dari pagi sampe siang, *gw udah keroncongan*. Dan hasilnya..... Customer nurut dong sama kita *horeeeeyyy!!!* keren ga tuh! :D.

Case C :
Ga ada peluang untuk korupsi sedikit pun, semua celah dia tutup. Elo bayangin aja, dalam setahun yang namanya audit itu bisa lebih dari 5x. Sumpah gw ga becanda. Audit dari luar, 2x setahun. Itu orang Auditor udah kayak punya kantor di sini. Di perusahaan lain, audit 1x juga udah cukup, ini mah 2x. Terus yee, belum lagi internal audit, ujug2 audit dari Asia Pacific Regional Offices, terus ga lama kemudian audit dari Jepang. Terus audit Security Trade Control-nya. Terus audit stok barang, PII, penghitungan barang di gudang. Terus aje deh yee.. sampe capek gw ngadepinnya. Segala dokumen yang dari tahun jebot juga dimintain, elo kata dokumennya cuma itu2 doang. Elu kata customernya cuma itu2 doang. Grrrhhh!!!. Belum lagi ya, kalo bikin report yang berhubungan dengan profit, uang. Jiaaah.. yang ngecek berlapis2. Minta konfirmasi dari General Manager divisi dulu, terus ajuin ke accounting, dicek sama PIC, terus dicek sama bos-nya, terus dicek lagi sama General Manager accounting. jiaah... banyak amat :D.Dan mereka sangat tegas, ada orang di kantor yang agak2 korupsi untuk biaya bensin (paling juga korupsinya 100rb doang total2) eh langsung dong, diPHK dengan tidak hormat, hari itu juga dia ga bisa access ke internet, nama dia dicoret dari Mitsui, jiaah.. kayak koruptor kelas kakap. Koruptor di Indonesia aja yang bermilyar2an ga dihukum kayak gitu.
Tapi itulah mereka, and that's why they survive and still expand.

Sekian ya cerita gw dari kantor tercinta :) mudah2an kita bisa memetik pelajaran dan hikmah di balik ini semua. Ciaaoo..!!!
Veilicious! The truth beauty is wrapped in a beautiful way...

Ya ALLAH, ampuni dosa anakku...

Yang namanya anak2, bukan anak2 namanya kalau ga bikin orang tuanya jengkel, marah bin kesel grrrhhh... Dan semakin kita marah, semakin seneng dia. Seperti waktu gw sholat Magrib kemaren (June 11, 2013). Ini anak piyik asik gangguin ibunya sholat. Yang naik2 ke atas punggung emaknya lah! yang jungkat-jungkit di atas punggung! yang kata duduk di depan orang sholat! mau sujud jadi susah. Mau berdiri jadi ribet, anaknya ngegelendot di punggung emaknya. Dalam hati udah di-sabar2-in. Rasanya abis selese solat mau di-uwel2 aja ni anak, dijewer, dimarahin, jengkel berat!. Tapi kalo kitanya marah, dia makin seneng. Makin kenceng ketawanya. Hiiy.. kesel! Lagian anak2 kan ga bole dimarahin, namanya juga anak umur 4 tahun, belum nyambung syaraf otaknya. So... selesai tahiyat akhir dan salam, gw tutup muka gw sambil sok2an nangis dan berdoa :

Ibu : Ya Allah, ampunilah dosa anakku hiks..hiks.. *drama nangis tersedu2*. Dia anak yang baik ya Allah, anak yang sholeh, namun karena godaan Syaiton Nirojim, makanya dia gangguin ibunya sholat. Ampunilah ya ALLAH dosa2nya, jangan Engkau hukum dia. hiks.. hiks... *nangis tersedu2 sambil ngintip si anak*
Abrar : duduk diem ga bergeming
Ibu : *Makin mendramatisir suasana* Ya ALLAH, hamba sayang anakku. Jangan Engkau hukum dia ya Allah. Sayangilah dia seperti hamba menyayanginya. Ampuni dosa2nya yang mengganggu ibunya.
Abrar : masih duduk diem tak bergeming, kayaknya makin meresapi kata2 gw ni anak.
Ibu : Ya ALLAH, dia anak yang baik, anak yang patuh, anak yang sayang orang tua, anak yang mau dibilangin sama orang tua, nurut, ga suka gangguin ibunya, sayang orang tua, keluarga, nenek, adek, kakak semuanya ya ALLAH. dia anak yang pintar ya ALLAH.
Abrar : matanya menerawang jauh, sepertinya udah terharu
Ibu : *Kayaknya perlu disudahin nih" Ya ALLAH, kabulkanlah permintaan hamba ya ALLAH. Kumohon pada-MU *hiks..hikss..* Selesai sholat langsung ambil tissue, sok2an nyeka air mata.

Abrar ngehampirin gw, nangis sambil meluk ibunya. "Ibuuu.... hikks... Abrar sayang ibu"
Ibu : *sambil ngelus2 anaknya*.Iya sayang, ibu juga sayang Abrar.
Abrar : Ibuuu... Abrar mau jadi anak yang pintar, baik, dan sayang sama ibu hikksss.... *masih nangis tersedu2*
Ibu : Iya sayang, Abrar kan ga mau ganggu ibunya sholat lagi kan?
Abrar : iya ibu *sambil ngangguk*
Ibu : Iya, Abrar anak yang pintar. *sambil ngelus2 anaknya*
Abrar : Tatap muka ibunya sambil tersenyum, terus jalan ambil tissue dan nyeka air matanya.

Veilicious! The truth beauty is wrapped in a beautiful way...

Learning English with Dora The Explorer

Abrar loves books, Her mom force him to love books.. We like going to book stores and buying some books. I usually pick some books for him, but before buying I will ask him first. Or he pick books then I will select them. Last week-end ( I don't remember the exact date) we bought some books at book store and one of the book was Dora the explorer. At home, as usually Abrar will ask me to read him books. I haven't seen inside of Dora's explorer book before, and I was suprised that the content is really educational. The book is consist 2 language (bilingual) and very attractive. I usually read the English version and if there's question ,I explain it in English. Recently Abrar is really love these books.



I think it's really helpful. I can teach English language to Abrar through these books. I was also suprised that Abrar is understand the questions in book and can answer it correctly. If he was asked to point out "Triangle", he will point it to "triangle" picture. Or, if he was asked,"If we don't know which way to go. Who do we call for help?" Then he replied,"Map". There are also little difficult questions on book, like,"Which truck do Boots call to help him to lift up above the crocodile lake?", Abrar will point to "Fire Truck". And any other questions. If he didn't understand the question, I try to explain it in English. I really suprised, because his school is not using English, only in Bahasa, but he can understand and follow Dora's books. I will buy more English books for him :)

Veilicious! The truth beauty is wrapped in a beautiful way...

A Morning Talk

Last Wednesday, Me and my colleague went to customer. On the way to customer's office, I had a little conversation with the driver, just call him "Pak Supir) :) Actually I just wanted to "basa-basi", but after my short question, came long "curhat" as belows :

Gue : Pak, how many children do you have?
Pak Supir : two
Gue: ooh... how old are they?
Pak Supir : My big daughter has finished her high school.
Gue : Ooh.. Where does she want to continue her school?
Pak Supir : Hm.. I don't know. Maybe she wants to work. From high school she sometimes works as SPG.
Gue : Ooh.. that's great. Maybe she can continue her school while working :)

I thought it would be end of my "basa-basi" but...

Pak Supir : Actually I have separated with my wife for 8 years now. So, my children are with my ex-wife now. But I'm still responsible to my children.
Gue : Ooh.. no possibility to get back together again? *I don't like divorce*.
Pak Supir : No mbak, I can't. Because we were divorce because of the third person (from his ex-wife side).
Gue : Ooh.. Okay, it will be really hurt :( Feel sorry for you.

Okay, I thought it would be full stop, no to be continued... :)

Pak Supir : I have friend, and his friend was also divorce. Beautiful girl with hijab. I already asked my friend to "comblangin" me, and set up meeting with her.
Gue : Ooh.. that's good pak. I hope she's the right one for you.
Pak Supir : Ya.. I hope so.
Pak Supir : Yesterday, a doctor called me. She's single, and she wanted to be my wife.

He continued "curhat" about his personal life again

Gue : Ooh, well it's good pak.
Pak Supir : but I felt shame, I only a driver and she is a doctor.
Gue : Hm.. *I'm speechless don't know what to say, and saved by the bell! I already arrived at my customer's office*

At first I just wanted to "basa-basi" with pak Supir, but suprisingly he told me his personal story. I have known him for long time, and we never talk much, because this man is a quiet person. I hope he can release his problem (even only a little) by talking with me.
*Actually he talked many things, but I forgot summarized it*

Veilicious! The truth beauty is wrapped in a beautiful way...

a lovey note at my Birthday :)

A lovely note through BBM from my beloved hubby on 00.31 dated May 29, 2013 (my birthday).
He made this beautiful note to me. Hm.. I thought that my hubby forgot my birthday but, he planned to write down this note. How lovely (eventhough I also really like if he also give me a surprise present :D)

Dear My Wife,
Usiamu kini telah bertambah
Begitu pula akan pengalaman hidup
Begitu pula akan amal ibadah yang telah diperbuat
Sebuah keharusan untuk bersyukur pada ALLAH SWT
Dan mengharapkan akan lebih baik ke depan

Nikmati hidup nikmati
Kesehatan adalah anugerah
Pengalaman hidup bersama kita jadi modal
bahwa kita bisa lebih baik lagi
Dan bisa bersyukur lagi

Anggap saja masalah adalah sebuah tangga yang menguji kita
Yang menyatakan bahwa kita sanggup untuk mengatasi masalah
Ukirlah hidupmu dengan penuh warna amal kebaikan
Sambutlah setiap saat akan waktumu dengan penuh optimis
Sandarkanlah semuanya pada nilai ibadah
Lakukan pekerjaanmu dengan penuh keikhlasan

I'll be with U

HBD my wife, mother of lovely son

Oww.. it's so sweet!!! It's kind of long text, and I believe he tried to make it by himself. The note is really meaningful, many good wisdoms on it. I really like it! eventhough it'll be better if he also give me a surprise present.

Thank you my hubby. I really thankful of what I have, a lovely hubby and cute son. What else do I have to ask! New job, new salary, lot of money ,more traveling aboards, etc etc In this precious moment, I just want to say Alhamdulillah :) Happy Birthday to me. Hm.. 34 now, I hope always be 25

Veilicious! The truth beauty is wrapped in a beautiful way...

Family Gathering @Bandoeng

My father's birthday on May 15, 2013, Alhamdulillah he's 73 years now. I wish he always at his best condition, healthy and happy :) We celebrated his birthday on May 24 - 25, 2013 in Bandung. Thanks to my sister, he booked us hotel rooms at The Summit Siliwangi Hotel. It's nice hotel, located on hectic Jl. Seram (near Jl. Riau). We planned to go floating market Lembang, the new famous place in Bandung. We went from Jakarta from 7.30 morning time, but traffic jam along the way, so we arrived in Bandung 11.30. We canceled our plan to go to floating market, and our first stop was Bancakan. Bancakan is famous Sundanese Restaurant in Bandung, located on Jl. Trunojoyo no. 62 Bandung, next to Sambara Restaurant and about 300 meter from Gedung Sate.. As usual, the food was very delicious and always be crowded, there was long queue until front door. Alhamdulillah, we got the table. But, unfortunately the price was not so cheap like before. After our stomach were full, we went to the summit oasis hotel located on Jl. Seram (next to Hotel Anggrek Gandasari). It's a new hotel. The room is clean, spacious (compare to other hotel with same level). We rent 4 rooms. Thanks GOD, we already booked rooms days ago from Jakarta, because the hotel was full booked. After check-in, we played bubbles at hotel's garden. I also tried it :) Hehehe..


playing bubble with kiddos at hotel's garden

Around 4 o'clock we went to Jl. Riau, shopping sight seeing at the FOs. I only bought 1 t-shirt for my son. Before going back to hotel, we eat mee and meatball at Bakmi Semar - Naripan. That's all for 1st day.

2nd day, we started with breakfast at hotel. The breakfast is soo soo, with prasmanan style. They had kwetiau, chicken, fried rice, vegetables, fried potatoes, bubur for main course. They also had pastries, not many, small ones, milk for sereals, juice (syrup) and fruits (melon, papaya and watermelon). Around 9 o'clock we went to Cisangkeuy, kids were riding horses and delman. Lunch at Cisangkeuy, sate and drink yoghurt. Before going back to Jakarta, we stopped at Anak Kecil (FO for children). Around 2 o'clock we off to Jakarta. So, bye bye Bandung...

Alhamdulillah we had so much fun and also broke. My son can play with his cousins, we had chance to gather around with all family, my parents, sister and brother. I hope we still have chance to have family gathering again. Amin.




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