Stupid!

I really hate when people call me stupid or treat me like a stupid person, that's why I can't forget my "dosen pembimbing" at University of Indonesia when I was studying Economics. I got trauma, eventhough I have graduated from year 2010, but I had bad dreams about it until year 2012 (Alhamdulillah, now that dream don't come again, InshaALLAH never again). She treated me like the most stupid person alive. She was prolong my skripsi process until 2 semesters with additional more 2 months. After giving her present (expensive batik danar hadi) she gave me C+ as skripsi's point. After giving that point, she said,"Untung saya masih baik, saya kasih kamu nilai C+).
Well, she's a lecture with very low morale. After giving "sogokan", she gave me point to pass my skripsi. What a shame?!

Damn I really hate that lecture. If killing or torturing someone is not a crime, I will be very happy to do it!. If "guna-guna" is not a sin, I will be very pleased to do it. I want her life miserable. I really feel that I don't deserve of what she's done to me. I have studied at 2 universities before, with good marks (IPK more than 3). Besides, my latest IPK at University of Indonesia was 3.4, until I got C+ for skripsi, the final IPK is 3.17. Suddenly she just judged me as the most stupid person in the world. I remembered when she said :

"Masa' kayak gini aja kamu ga bisa? Katanya kamu dulu lulusan S1 juga di Padjadjaran. Bener kamu dulu lulus di sana?"

"Bahasa Inggris kamu jelek banget sih!. Kamu dulu lulus sekolah ga?"

"Kamu dulu SD-nya di mana sih? bukan negeri ya?"

and there were many sentences that really hurt my feeling :(. She also treated me like trash. She asked me to come to her home at very morning (even birds haven't showing up), which is very far from my house, only to revise my skripsi. Then she asked me right away to change it and print it. Then she asked me to do revision at other place, instead her home. GOD, I'M SORRY IF I CAN NOT FORGIVE HER AND REALLY WANT HER LIFE MISERABLE, LIKE A HELL. I must do it for 2 semesters + 2 months, and what point do I have? only C+. That's the lowest point to graduate. I was very down. I never got bad as the most bad treatment before. I remembered that my last final reports at 2 last universities are A.

Dear GOD, please don't meet me up with that kind of person again. I never want to have that experience again, only once and enough. Dear GOD, please hear my wish. Amin.


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Transformation

Maybe some people have seen me transform from friends-ly into family person. If before when I was young (well now I'm also still young *ngarep*), about 16s until 30s, I was always being with many friends. My friend, even called me, "Anak Gaul". At one time, I was hang out with my group friends A, and the other time with my another groups. I was always out, never at home. I used to talk with my friends, not my family. But, now it's change. Not only me who change, but also my group friends. They become family persons. Not only for my main family, which is : My mom-dad-sisters-brother-brother in laws-sister in laws- hubby-son- nephews, but also with other relatives. We had "arisan keluarga", from my mom's side and dad's side. When I was young, I never like went to this kind of events, arisan, weddings, or everything that related with family. But now, I started to like it.

لَا يُؤْ مِنُ اَحَدُكُمْ حَتَّى يُحِبَّ لِاَخِيْهِ مَا يُحِبُّ
لِنَفْسِهِ

"Tidak sempurna iman seseorang sehingga ia mencintai saudaranya sebagaimana ia mencintai dirinya sendiri."
(HR. Bukhari-Muslim)

I love my family, eventhough I also admit that my family itself is not perfect. There are some problems with one and another. Eventhough we come from same parents, but we have different personalities. But my parents always say to us, that they want to see us get along, harmonious. So, eventhough we fought, but I always want us to back together. Not only me but also my other siblings think same way. And we also do same thing with our big family. That's why, FAMILY COMES FIRST. But I'm also still open friendship with other people. Eventhough not always hang out here and there. Same situation happens with my group friends. I think it's very big step for them too. I think we are growing up, become more mature. So, I like this transformation :)

If we can handle relationship with our own family, its show our maturity. Why? Because friends are like surface of the material. We only see them from the top. We don't grow up together, eventhough they are friends from we were kids, but we never stay at 1 roof. We only know them when we meet, chat, curhat, but that's all. If we don't like them, we can erase them from our friendship and find another ones. But family is different, we live together,we saw them from they were baby, until they have children or even grandchildren. The more we see each other and live together, the more we see things that we don't like. But, we must overcome it. (IMHO).

The conclusion is :
"Perlunya untuk tenggang rasa, mencoba untuk menerima kelebihan dan kekurangan orang lain. Bersikap lebih sabar dan memaafkan. Menjauhi sifat egois dan kekanak2an."

I admit that I'm still egoist and childish. But, I want that my son, my nephews or even my grand children still remind me as family. They also feel that "FAMILY COMES FIRST". I believe that if we will be treated as we treat others. So, be careful!

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Amaroosa Hotel Bandung

My family was staying at Amaroosa Hotel on June 29. Hm.. it's been long time, I haven't got enough time and moment to write this review. But today, in this lovely Friday morning, after early breakfast for fasting, I wrote it. Overall, I like Amaroosa Hotel. It's not a big hotel, it's a small boutique hotel with no parking space, little swimming pool more like a fish pond, but very comfort room. First we will see lobby, small lobby with comfort sofas.



But there was no bell boy or anyone who helped us taking our bags to the room. After getting our cards as key to open room, we had to bring our bags to our rooms and no one showing us the way. Btw, since there was not enough parking space, so we had to use vallet parking service. Don't worry, it's free. But, just be patient waiting your cars came, because they had to take your cars. The room was really beautiful. The decoration was victorian style and comfort too. If you want to ironing your clothes, they also provide it.



This hotel also have swimming pool. It's decorated very natural. There's waterfalls, path with white sands and chairs.
But the swimming pool is quite small, it looked like fish pond. But we still had a great time. Kiddos as usually didn't want to quit.



At next morning, we had breakfast. The variety of breakfast was so so. There were somay, baso, jamu, salads, juices, fruits, spagetti, potato, nasi goreng, chicken,meat, vegetable, and bakeries. The taste was so so (IMO).



That's little story from our last vacation. I hope I have chance to review another hotel.


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D.I.L.E.M.A

After struggling with my own thoughts and feelings, finally I accepted the offer at Australian engineering consultant in Oil, Gas and minerals. But then, I got phone call from one of biggest American Oil Company, she asked me to come to their office for an interview. It's so suddenly, and my confusion was starting over again. Fortunately I haven't signed offer from that Australian company. My hubby and my friends said "Why don't give a try. Come to the nterview, watch and see. Maybe they got higher offer". With Bismillah I agreed to come to their office for an interview. The interview itself was going smooth (too smooth I think). After talking for a while, they just like me (Alhamdulillah). But, they can not give salary higher than that Australian company (same amount). But, it's okay. Well, it's pretty much higher than my current job. I have to re-thinking. Which company should I choose. Both of those companies are really tempting. I can't sleep (this phase came again). I talked to my hubby, my sister, my friend. I was also praying and praying. I just didn't know what to do. I really hope for better future. Job, not only good for my self, but also my family (especially my son). I want to have good relationship with my bosses, colleagues, the job itself, environment and also stability in life. I just returned it to GOD, and I pray,"What ever it is, InshaALLAH that the best for me. Please GOD show me the way". Then, this morning e-mail came from HRD of the American Oil Company :

Hi Mba Dina,

Thank you for taking the time to interview with ExxonMobil.
We have reviewed your background, qualification and interests relative to the needs of our organizations within ExxonMobil.
But however, we regret to inform you that there is some changes in our organizations (just now) that we need to cancel our recruiting process for XXXXXX.

Apologize for inconvenient.
We appreciate your interest in ExxonMobil and the opportunity you have given to consider you for working with us.

Hm.. maybe GOD has already given me the sign. After receiving this e-mail, I signed offer from Australian company, and gave my resignation letter to my boss. Bismillah, InshaALLAH everything is going to be OKAY.
I hope for better everything than my current job. Wish me luck! :)

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Piss Off

Alhamdulillah, di hari ke-7 berpuasa, gw berkesempatan sholat di mesjid deket rumah bareng Abrar. Seperti tahun lalu, gw n Abrar menyempatkan diri untuk sholat Isya dan taraweh di mesjid. Abrar sih ga rewel, karena selese-nya jam 9an, dia ketiduran di mesjid. Tugas gw untuk ngebanguninnya dan jalan balik ke rumah (kasian sih sebenernya ngebangunin ini anak piyik, tapi gimana dong berat ajaa kalo gendong dari mesjid ke rumah :( ). Back to cerita yang hari ke-7 di bulan puasa ini, kita juga jalan ke mesjid. Gw bawain Abrar, susu-nya dan bantal untuk dia tidur2an. Segala sesuatunya berjalan lancar, kebetulan gw sampe mesjid setengah jam sebelum waktu Isya, mesjidnya masih kosong. Sambil nunggu waktu Isya, Abrar tidur2an, minum susu dan main games di HP. Setelah mendekati Isya sudah banyak orang yang datang, Alhamdulillah mesjid pun menjadi penuh. Tiba2 datanglah nyokap dan keponakan gw Rayya, Abrar sudah pasti seneng banget bisa ketemu temen. Sholat Isya pun dimulai, Abrar dan Rayya asik main masing2. Namanya anak2, yang satu main mobil2an dan yang satu lagi main little ponny. Mereka ngomong sendiri aja, seperti playing puppet. Setelah Sholat Isya selese, then the problem comes. Tiba2 orang di depan kita, si mbak2 ber-mukena hijau complain. Dia bilang,"BU, ANAKNYA JANGAN BERISIK YA!". Jiaaah... rese' banget itu orang. Gw bilang ke nyokap gw,"YA NAMANYA JUGA ANAK2. MASA' MO DIEM". hm.. I got piss off by that green mukena girl. Hm.. menurut gw sih, anak2 ini ga terlalu ngeganggu kok. Mereka ga teriak2, atau gimana. Mereka hanya main with their own toys, yaa.. namanya main agak berisik dikit, wajar lah. Namanya juga anak2. *Hm.. I become so defensive, well when it comes to my kids, I will defend them* Ga tauk deh, mungkin gw terlalu lebay kali ya. Nyokap gw bisikin gw,"UDAH JANGAN CARI MUSUH". Namanya anak2 agak rusuh ya, tapi ada ibu2 di belakang gw yang bilang. "GAK APA2 KOK BU. NAMANYA JUGA ANAK2. SAYA JUGA PUNYA ANAK. JADI SAYA TAUK". Hm.. toss buat ibu. Tapi lama2 akhirnya gw jadi males jg sih. Apalagi si mbak2 bermukena hijau itu, suka dikit2 nengok ke belakang. Ngeliat2 gimana gitu. Akhirnya gw memutuskan,"YA UDAH YUK MA, KITA PULANG AJA". Pas gw mo pulang, ibu2 di belakang gw nanya,"KOK PULANG NENG?". Gw jawab sambil senyum,"IYA BU, SOALNYA TAKUT GANGGU. YUK BU, MAKASI".

Gw jadi mikir, hm.. gw yang lebay atau gimana ya? Aduhh.. hati gw tuh sakit banget kalo ada orang yang marahin anak gw. Hm.. I'm too possesive then. Ada ga sih seminar untuk menghadapi masalah gw? *NEED HELP*

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Do You Dare to Take The Risk?

After deep thinking can not sleep, can not eat, but not getting skinner :( I decided to take the risk. Ofcourse, I also consulted with my hubby and family, and my hubby really support me LOVE YOU SAYANG and really trust my ability. I told him that if I take this chance, I have to show my performance and there is possibility that I will be jobless. But he really has faith in me :

Our BB conversation :

Hubby : Ya aku mah saranin ambil, kerja sebagus2nya. Kalau nanti kira2 ga diperpanjang, kamu ngelamar lagi ke perusahaan Minyak. Kan kamu udah ada pengalaman di CV di perusahaan minyak.

Me : Kalau misalnya nih, aku ga diperpanjang. belum dapet kerjaan baru. Gimana? Can you handle?

Hubby : Tenang aja, jangan khawatir.Pasti dapet. Percaya kemampuan kamu.


So, what should I do now? Hm.. just pray and hope for the best. Basically I'm not the risk taker, but they said "High Risk, High Profit". With Bismillah, I'll take this challenge. Wish me luck :)

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Pengaruh Jam Tidur Pada Kemampuan Anak

Berikut artikel yang mudah2an bermanfaat diambil dari : BBCIndonesia.com - detikNews

Jadwal tidur anak-anak yang teratur menambah kemampuan otak mereka.

Anak-anak yang memiliki kebiasaan tidur malam dan tidak teratur dapat mempengaruhi kinerja otak mereka, menurut sebuah penelitian.

Penemuan mengenai kebiasaan tidur dan kemampuan otak anak-anak ini berasal dari studi di Inggris yang melibatkan lebih dari 11.000 anak-anak berusia tujuh tahun.

Anak-anak yang tidak memiliki kebiasaan tidur yang teratur atau yang tidur diatas jam 21.00 memiliki skor yang rendah dalam membaca dan matematika.

Kurang tidur kemungkinan akan menganggu ritme tubuh dan menghambat otak untuk mempelajari informasi baru, seperti yang ditulis dalam penelitian tersebut.

Mereka mengumpulkan data dari anak-anak berusia tiga, lima dan tujuh untuk mengetahui bagaimana kemampuan mereka mempelajari sesuatu dan apakah ini kemungkinan akan berkaitan dengan kebiasaan tidur mereka.

Kebiasaan tidur yang tidak teratur banyak terjadi pada anak-anak, sekitar satu dari lima anak-anak memiliki jam tidur yang bervariasi.

Pada usia tujuh tahun, lebih dari setengah anak-anak memiliki jam tidur yang regular antara 19.30 dan 20.30.

Secara keseluruhan, anak-anak yang tidak pernah kebiasaan tidur yang teratur memiliki skor yang lebih rendah dalam tes membaca, matematika dan kepedulian disekitarnya.

Dampak dari kebiasaan tidur ini tampak lebih nyata pada anak perempuan dibandingkan anak laki-laki.



Jadwal teratur
Para penelitian yang dipimpin oleh Prof Amanda Sacker University College London, mengatakan anak-anak dengan jadwal tidur yang tidak teratur merefleksikan keadaan keluarga yang kacau. Jadwal tidur yang tidak teratur itu berdampak pada kemampuan kongnitif anak.

"Kami berupaya untuk menghitung kondisi tersebut," kata Prof Sacker.

Anak-anak yang memiliki kebiasaan tidur malam dan tidak teratur berasal dari latar belakang sosial yang lemah dan sedikit tampaknya membaca sampai tengah malam, dan secara umum menonton televisi yang biasanya ada di kamar mereka.

Setelah mengamati sejumlah faktor tersebut, kaitan antara kemampuan mental yang buruk dan jadwal tidur yang tidak teratur pun muncul.

Penemuan itu dipublikasikan dalam jurnal epidemologi dan kesehatan komunitas.

Prof Sacker mengatakan "Jadwal yang teratur tampaknya penting bagi anak-anak.

"Membuat anak agar memiliki jadwal teratur sedini mungkin merupakan yang terbaik, dan itu tidak pernah terlambat untuk dilakukan."


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ceritanya sih hemat :)

Punya kantor bersebelahan dengan mol besar seperti Grand Indonesia, sungguh2 harus menggunakan kacamata kuda. Apalagi kalo ada SALE besar2an up to 50% or even 70% ga ada ya diskon 90% gitu?. Alhamdulillah sejauh ini gw sih masih bisa menahan diri untuk tidak membeli baju2 SALE utk gw, meskipun toko2nya berjejer memanggil2 gw untuk masuk :D Beda case-nya kalo untuk anak, SALE Mothercare, Seibu, crocs, InshaALLAH disambangin. Ya namanya juga sayang anak :(. Belum lagi restoran2nya, macem2 jenisnya.Ada Duck King, Sushi Tei, Sumpit, Kafe Betawi, Marche,Crystal Jade, Han Gang, Takigawa, Social House, Sky-E dan banyak lagi. Kalo ada diskon dari kartu kredit tertentu, lumayan juga tuh. Tapi, gw tahan2 nafsu untuk ga makan di resto2 itu. Cukup di kantin gedung aja, yang murah meriah. Biasanya makan paginya di kantin, terus makan siangnya, bawa dari rumah. Hemat bukan :). Kalo buat gw sih, Alhamdulillah gw bisa berhemat. Tapi nih ya, sebelah kantor ada Gramedia, liat buku gambar, jadi inget anak di rumah beliin. Liat gunting kecil, inget anak, beliin deh. Liat buku cerita, beliin juga deh. Terus liat crayon, cat air, buku ina inu beliin juga deh. Yaa.. gitu deh, ceritanya sih pengen hemat, tapi kalo udah urusan anak, buyar semua :D Tapi InshaALLAh yang gw beliin untuk anak gw berguna, bukan sekedar mainan2 yang tidak mendidik. *mencari pembenaran*

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D.I.L.E.M.A

Being mother, is not easy. Well, everybody has known about it. I believe that every mom has their own battle. Eventhough she is a working mom, full timer or part timer, or housewife. Being working mom is not easy either. Well, sometimes people see us as mothers who neglect their kids, having fun at their office, leave their children at home. Mothers who don't want to take care their own children. You know what, it's a tough choice for us. Every morning I need to gain so much power to leave my only son. When he ask me to stay, I have to be brave to say No, and keep going to office. I have to be strong enough not to let my tears fall down. Seeing my baby's face, his begging face and crying, is really hurt me. But, I have to go. I need to go to office, working for him too. I really want him to have what the best for him, the best school, the best toys, the best entertainments, the best holidays, everything for him. While on the way to office, if I see a boy as his age with his mother, I really envy her. I really want to be at her place. Let his son in her lap, hug him, talk and tell him story, kiss him, smell him, seeing his smile, it really torture me. When I arrive at office, I start working and get busy with myself. Why? Because I don't want have a room to think about my son. If he's sick, it's really terrible situation. I keep blaming myself, I really afraid if something bad happen to him. But.. I still have to work. It's egois, but life is not as we ask. I work for my family, helping family economy. Being working mom, is not like i dreamed. I have no intention to become a working mom. I pictured my self at home together with my kids, prepare him before going to school, breakfast together, take him to school, pick him up, have lunch together, teach them at home, play with them. If I should work,my dream was working as a teacher not full time one. But, sometimes we can not have what we wish for....

Now, I have to work hard for my son. Helping family economy. Maybe someday, if my hubby's business expanding, and I don't need to work anymore. I can fulfil my dream :)

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Mat-Gay

Ga tauk kenapa, tiba2 BB gw jadi error :( trackpad-nya ga berfungsi, coba untuk ganti trackpad di service BlackBerry, but it's useless. Katanya BB-nya harus disimpen dulu di tempat servis, untuk dilihat. Gw ga masih pikir2 dulu, apalagi kebetulan kemaren itu gw emang lagi "nunggu telpon", jadi dibawa balik lagi deh itu BB. Hari ini, gw pindahin sim card ke HP yang kebetulan nganggur di rumah, so no BBM from yesterday until today. Gimana rasanya? Mat-gay gw :(

Mungkin buat kebanyakan orang, "APA SIH LO?! GA ADA BB AJA BISA MAT-GAY!". Bener deh, bukan apa2, jualan OL gw jadi tersendat *hiikss...* Miris rasanya liat beberapa BBM masuk, tapi ga bisa buka pesannya. Udah gitu, FB di kantor juga di-blocked, dan WIFI-nya pun sama, jadi gw buka FB juga dari BB. Bukannya sok2an mau eksis atau gimana, cuma itu loh pesenan jualan gw juga lewat FB *hiiiikkss...*. Belum lagi whatsapp-nya juga ga bisa dibuka. "PENTING GITU WHATSAPP BUAT ELO DIN?". Penting banget, order-an juga lewat whatsapp. Sedih deh, takutnya nanti customer2 gw pada kecewa. Ahh.. bener2 nih BB, emang dibutuhin banget sama gw.

Maaf ya customerku yang tercinta, bukan maksud hati ingin nyuekin bbm, sms, whatsapp atau message dan comment di FB, tapi sori dori mori BB-ku rusak *huaaa... nangis*

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Face-to-Face Interviews : Secrets, Tricks and Tips

Face-to-Face Interviews: Secrets, Tricks and Tips
(taken from www.michaelspiro.wordpress.com)

For job-seekers in today’s challenging job market, getting in front of an actual live person to interview for a job with a company is a major goal – second only to receiving and accepting an actual job offer! It seems like more and more these days, companies who are interested in a candidate begin their screening process with a phone interview – usually conducted by an internal company recruiter or an HR person. I’ve already posted a separate blog about phone interviews [“Phone Interviews: Secrets, Tricks and Tips.”] For those candidates lucky enough to pass through the phone interview and graduate to a face-to-face interview … this blog is for you!

After coaching and prepping hundreds of candidates for face-to-face interviews over the years, here are some tips, tricks and secrets that I’ve learned that may help. Now I admit that some of this information is identical to my phone interview prep … so, you’ll excuse me if I plagiarize from myself and repeat certain sections from that earlier blog. There are, of course, several very different key aspects to preparing for an in-person interview that are included here.

Research the industry, the company and the players.
Find out everything you can about the place, their business, their products, their position in their industry, their reputation, their competition, their financial stability and the key decision-makers who work there. Study the company’s website, take notes and jot down questions related to their business that you can ask at the end of your interview. Google Search the company and see what else you can find out about them beyond their own website. Look up the company on a professional business database like Dun & Bradstreet’s Million Dollar Database Premier or ReferenceUSA Business. Anyone with a public library card number can log into those databases from any home computer! (Ask your local librarian for help if you don’t know how to do this.) Read and study the company’s information there in detail. You certainly want to sound like you’ve done your homework, and that you are informed about them when asked the inevitable question: “How much do you know about our company?”

Research your interviewer.
Find out everything you can about the person that will be interviewing you. Try to find a bio on the company’s website. See if there is a bio of your interviewer in the personnel listed on the professional business databases mentioned above. Do a Google Search on their name and see what comes up. Look their name up on LinkedIn and check out their profile there. Figure out if you share any of their 1st degree LinkedIn connections, and if so, call those people and ask if they can give you any insights. The more you learn about your interviewer, the better prepared you’ll be to connect on a personal level. Think of ways to use this information as part of the “Nuggets” technique listed below.

Study the job description and prepare stories.
Carefully think through each element of the job description for the position you are interviewing for beforehand and prepare concrete examples of when, where and how you have done all the specific things described in that job description. Telling stories is a very powerful interview technique. Prepare brief stories about your past accomplishments and experiences that illustrate how you provided value to your past employers … and by inference, how you would bring similar value to a new company. Be ready to tell your stories and demonstrate with details how you fit each and every requirement they listed. Try to work those stories into your conversation in a natural way during your interview.

Print out and bring a few copies of your résumé with you.
Most likely, your interviewer will already have a copy in front of them … but sometimes they don’t. If not, it’s always helpful to ask if they’d like to have a copy to refer to – which you just happen to have ready to hand them. You might also be introduced to other people who will want to interview you, and who may not be prepared with a copy of your résumé. It’s best to have them handy.

Dress for Success.
I would advise everyone to dress up for every interview (jacket & tie or a suit for men, conservative business suit and no flashy jewelry for women.) Unless your interviewer specifically instructs you to dress casually for an interview (meaning they brought it up in advance … not that you asked if it would be OK) then this is the accepted rule of thumb. Sure, lots of places are “Business Casual” these days. I’ve seen interviewers dressed in jeans. However, don’t ever assume that means you can dress down for an interview. I’ve had more than one casually dressed decision-maker tell me that they thought a candidate showed a lack of respect by not dressing up for their interview. The bottom line is that dressing up cannot possibly hurt you!

Be on time – not too early, and NEVER late!
Make sure you know exactly where you are going. Verify the exact address and location that you are to meet your interviewer. Use Google Maps or Mapquest to plan your route. If you have one, use a GPS in your car to avoid getting lost. Do a practice driving run if you are unsure of the location. NEVER be late! But, also do not show up more than 5-10 minutes early. (That is disrespectful to the interviewer, and actually shows desperation.) If you do arrive too early, sit in your car and re-read the job description and gather your thoughts. Don’t go in until it’s close to your appointment time. On the other hand, if you do find yourself running late due to unexpected circumstances (severe weather, traffic problems, etc.) make sure you have a phone number with you that you can call to alert your interviewer about your delay. Nothing is worse than showing up late without having called. And then remember to silence your cell phone before you walk in the door!

Have a Firm Handshake.
It may sound obvious, but how you shake hands says volumes about your personality. Practice on someone you trust if needed. You want it to be firm, but not so tight that it feels like you are trying to break bones! The worst is the “fish” handshake – a completely limp hand. That’s just creepy! Almost as bad is gripping someone around their fingers instead of fully locking hands at the base of the thumb. This may sound overly picky, but you’d be surprised how much your handshake contributes to that all-important first impression.

Smile!
Remember to speak clearly, and try to convey enthusiasm and energy through your tone of voice. Smiling helps (really, it does!) Smile as much as possible during the conversation. Try it … you’ll notice that you actually sound very different when you talk through a smile.

Make Eye Contact.
Throughout the interview, make sure you make eye contact with your interviewer. It’s OK if you have to refer to notes, or read something … but be conscious of where your eyes are focusing, and meet your interviewers eyes as much as possible (without going overboard by staring!)

Pay attention to your posture.
Sit up straight in your chair. Do not slouch or lean back. From time to time, a good trick is to lean forward towards the interviewer. When speaking, leaning forward transmits the message that you want to emphasize your point. When listening, leaning forward transmits the message that you are fully engaged in active listening. Also, don’t chew gum!

Mirroring the vocal cadence and body language of the interviewer.
A trick often used by sales people is to listen to the speed and tone of the interviewer’s voice, and try to match it with your own. I don’t mean imitate the person’s voice or accent … but simply talk slower or faster to match the way the other person sounds, and mirror their general tone and level. Mirroring the general body language of your interviewer (which way they’re leaning, crossing their legs, tilting their head, and other broad gestures) has the same effect. Doing this subconsciously makes the other person feel more comfortable with you, and helps you form a connection with them.

Use the “Nuggets” technique to establish rapport.
“Nuggets” are all those little things that you can pick out about a person or a company that you can make a positive comment about, compliment a person on, and use to connect on a personal level with the person you are talking with. When done correctly, using “Nuggets” in an interview can increase your chances of success and cast you in a more favorable light. Everyone loves to hear compliments … and it’s simply human nature for someone to be attracted to someone else who says complimentary things about them, and who seems impressed with them. [For more on this powerful interview technique, read: “Nuggets: A Secret Interviewing Technique.”]

Projecting a Positive Attitude is a critical key.
Concentrate on projecting positive energy and enthusiasm. Try to express passion for your work, a sense of humor, and a genuine aura of optimism. Those are the qualities that make a person attractive to others. It’s nearly impossible to fake those qualities, and frankly it’s one of the main reasons people get hired. Being able to convey a positive attitude is critical. [For more on this, read: “The Power of a Positive Attitude.”]

Questions, Questions, Questions.
There are literally hundreds of different questions that interviewers might ask, depending on the position of the interviewer, and their interview style. I do not intend to list specific questions and how to answer them here. A simple Google Search on “Interview Questions” will take you to dozens of great websites that go into great detail on that topic. I will say that the most common thing you’ll hear from almost every interviewer near the beginning of your meeting is some variation of: “Tell me about yourself.” Answering that is pretty basic, and also fairly critical. Don’t ask “where should I begin” – a sure sign of someone who needs to be spoon-fed instructions instead of thinking on their feet … definitely not the message you want to give! Also, don’t give an autobiography of your entire life starting with where you were born, where you went to school, what your hobbies and interests are, etc. – all personal items to be filed under the category of “too much information.” Keep your answer focused on your professional profile as it relates to this job and this company. Be prepared to give an expanded version of your “Elevator Pitch” in which you give an overview of your most recent and most relevant career experiences, and your professional goals. Try, if possible, to reference elements in their job description, and how your skills and experiences match it. Remember to use your prepared stories if you can. However, don’t let this answer go on too long … keep it well under 5 minutes. It’s OK to ask when you are done: “Would you like me to go into greater detail on anything in particular?”

Be a good listener, and never interrupt.
Any good interview is a 2-way exchange of information. Let the interviewer talk and lead the discussion without interrupting. Listen carefully, and then give thoughtful answers. Answer questions directly and completely, but try not to go off on tangents or “over-talk” your answers. It’s better to give a brief answer, and then ask “is that what you wanted, or should I give you more details?” Candidates often get nervous and talk too much during interviews, trying way too hard to “sell themselves.” While talking, pay attention to the body language of your interviewer and watch for signs of boredom – fidgeting, looking at their watch, etc. – and cut yourself off if see them. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve debriefed interviewers who complained about candidates who talked on and on and on during interviews, without letting the interviewer get a word in edgewise! Sometimes it’s better to simply shut up and listen!!!

Don’t bring up salary or benefits … but be prepared to answer the Dreaded Salary Question directly if asked.
Never be the one to bring it up … but if asked point blank what you made at your last job, or what your salary expectations are going forward – don’t play games or avoid answering. You need to prepare direct and truthful responses to those questions. If this topic came up in a prior phone interview, make sure your answers are consistent with what you said before. It’s best to be honest about your history, and to give a range for your expectations (rather than a specific number.) Your history is what it is – you can’t change it, and delaying telling them serves no purpose. And your expectations should not be a moving target … you should know what you need as a minimum, and what range makes sense based on your history. Now it is true that if the range you give does not overlap with the range that they have budgeted for the job you are pursuing, they will very likely eliminate you from consideration. On the other hand, if you dance around this issue and/or refuse to give a straight answer, then that is just as likely to raise a red flag that will eliminate you here. There are simply too many qualified applicants for every open job for most companies to want to deal with someone who can’t give a straightforward answer on this. The bottom line is that if your salary expectations do not match what they can pay, then it’s a waste of both your and their time to continue pursuing this position. They’ll find out eventually, so it’s better to know sooner rather than later. [For more details on this topic, read: “Answering the Dreaded Salary Question.”]

Prepare a list of questions you can ask.
Almost every interviewer asks near the end of an interview: “Do you have any questions?” Candidates are often judged by the quality of the questions they ask … and candidates who have no questions at all might be perceived as having no interest in the position. Some suggested ideas for general questions are: “How long have you been with the company, and what do you like about it?” “How would you describe the company culture here?” “What characteristics have made your best employees successful here?” You might also want to think of more specific questions about the company or their products, based your research. [For more on this, read: “'So, Do You Have Any Questions?' Nailing the Interview Closer.”]

At the end of the interview, clarify the next steps.
If you are interested in this job, make sure to say so! (“I just want to let you know that I am very interested in this opportunity, and hope we can move forward. What is the next step?”) Don’t leave without determining what the expectations are for the next steps, and how and when YOU should follow-up. Ask what their timetable is for hiring, and how their hiring process works. Also make sure you get a business card with the email address and phone number of your interviewer, and send them a thank-you email that same day. If you met with more than one person, get everyone’s cards and do the same with them. Then immediately make a note on your calendar of when your pro-active follow-up call will be if you don’t hear back from them first. If you really want this job, don’t just sit back wait for them to make the next move. You have to go after it!

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Tips and Tricks Menghadapi Bos yang Rese

Untuk menghadapi bos yang rese, ada beberapa tips and tricks :
1. I'm cool --> berusaha untuk tetap tenang
2. I'm peace --> jangan meng-konfrontasi si bos
3. I'm professional --> jadikan bos sebagai "klien", bersikap netral, perhatikan. Jangan curhat dan komplain
4. Say it words --> biar bos tidak lupa, kirim e-mail juga (bentuk tertulis)
5. I don't do drama --> Jangan bikin drama, dengan melakukan hal2 yang aneh2.
6. I'm no gossiper --> tenang, tetap mengontrol dan liat situasi. Tidak perlu di-gosip-in ke seluruh kantor
7. I'm independent --> jadi karyawan yang mandiri
8. Still be possitive dan rational

Atau seperti artikel di bawah ini :

Mungkin setiap Anda yang membaca artikel ini memiliki pengalaman buruk dengan atasan yang kurang menyenangkan. Bos seperti ini ada di mana-mana. Tidak ada yang tahu darimana mereka datang atau apa yang menyebabkan mereka dapat bersikap buruk. Namun, setiap bos yang menyebalkan memiliki sisi baik, bahkan jika Anda merasa tidak tahan berhadapan dengannya. Banyak tips yang dapat Anda lakukan untuk menghadapi temperamen atasan Anda yang sulit dan membuat kehidupan profesional Anda menjadi lebih mudah.

1. Jangan Menjadi Emosional

Tergantung sifat seperti apa yang dimiliki orang tersebut, terdapat beberapa tips yang berbeda untuk meghadapi atasan yang sulit. Seringkali, bos yang benar-benar sulit memiliki karakter yang membuatnya berperilaku kasar atau terlalu kritis. Dalam hal ini, hal terbaik yang dapat Anda lakukan adalah menjaga agar emosi Anda tetap terkendali. Jangan menanggapi perilaku emosional tersebut, karena hanya dapat membuat Anda disalahgunakan dengan lebih buruk. Bahkan bisa menjadi suatu hal yang egois dan Anda tidak akan menginginkan memiliki benturan yang seperti itu dengan atasan Anda.

2. Rencana B

Ketika berhadapan dengan bos yang sulit, Anda cenderung menghindari konfrontasi maupun diskusi dalam bentuk apapun. Hal itu dapat dimengerti dan selalu terjadi dalam situasi seperti ini. Jadi, sangatlah baik bila Anda memiliki beberapa rencana ke depan, hanya untuk berjaga-jaga jika situasi tidak berjalan seperti yang diharapkan. Rencana B Anda mungkin melibatkan pengetahuan bahwa Anda telah dijamin pekerjaan lain sebelum mebicarakan topik yang sensitif ini dengan atasan Anda, atau mungkin Anda dapat menghadiri rapat kerja dengan beberapa kemungkinan strategi yang berbeda.

3. Diskusikan, Jangan Konfrontasi

Berbicara tentang konfrontasi, jangan pernah lakukan itu. Anda tidak akan pernah menginginkan konfrontasi dengan atasan yang sulit. Jika atasan Anda bersikap kritis terhadap Anda, jangan langsung melawan dan menunjukkan sifat defensif. Konfrontasi semacam itu hanya akan mengakibatkan hal yang buruk bagi Anda. Mungkin hal itu melukai hati Anda, tapi lawanlah kritik yang dilontarkannya untuk meminta nasehat. Atasan Anda mungkin hanya memiliki cara yang berbeda dalam melakukan sesuatu.

4. Periksa Diri Anda Sendiri

Tips untuk menghadapi atasan yang sulit juga perlu diberlakukan pada diri Anda sendiri. Pastikan Anda telah memeriksa perilaku Anda terlebih dahulu, dan evaluasi kinerja pekerjaan Anda. Apakah Anda telah melakukan sesuatu yang salah? Apakah Anda telah memaksa atasan Anda dengan beberapa cara? Terkadang kita memberikan petunjuk negatif tanpa bermaksud melakukannya, dan hal itu dapat menyebabkan atasan Anda berperilaku buruk terhadap Anda.

5. Miliki Seorang Mentor

Seringkali, memiliki seseorang untuk diajak bicara dapat mendatangkan manfaat dalam banyak area. Dengan menempatkan seseorang di perusahaan Anda yang dapat bertindak sebagai mentor, Anda memiliki kesempatan untuk mendapatkan nasehat yang baik untuk menghadapi situasi tersebut. Anda dapat melihat manajemen yang baik itu seperti apa, dan Anda akan memiliki seseorang kepada siapa Anda dapat mencurahkan isi hati.

6. Buatlah Daftar

Tips lain untuk menghadapi atasan yang sulit adalah dengan merinci semua perilaku buruknya. Anda mungkin tidak akan pernah menunjukkan daftar ini kepada atasan Anda, namun berlatih melakukan hal ini dapat menjadi sebuah katarsis. Anda dapat melihat secara hitam putih apa yang paling mengganggu Anda. Selain membiarkan Anda melampiaskan perasaan Anda, metode ini juga dapat membantu Anda membayangkan cara-cara yang dapat Anda lakukan untuk menangkal atau mengatasi perilaku buruk atasan Anda.

7. Mengetahui Keterbatasan Anda

Harimau tidak dapat mengubah garis-garis tubuhnya. Jika duduk dan berbicara dengan atasan Anda sepertinya tidak dapat menjadi pilihan, Anda mungkin harus menerima kenyataan bahwa Anda tidak dapat mengubah perilaku atasan Anda. Atasan Anda mungkin secara umum adalah seorang yang sulit. Dari sini, Anda bisa belajar untuk tidak mengambil hati segala hal yang dikatakan atasan Anda, dan berhentilah untuk menjelek-jelekkan atasan Anda. Bos Anda bukanlah seorang yang mengerikan, hanya atasan Anda – seseorang yang harus Anda hadapi sampai salah satu dari Anda mendapatkan posisi yang berbeda atau mendapatkan pekerjaan yang baru.

Selalu ada keterbatasan bila berhubungan degan orang lain. Anda tidak dapat mengubah setiap orang, dan beberapa orang memang tidak ingin berubah. Jadi, satu-satunya hal yang dapat Anda lakukan adalah mengubah respon Anda dengan cara yang lebih positif.
Source : allwomenstalk


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